Im going to try and make this as EASY to understand as possible....
I left DH Dec 17 2010
I got on TANF Jan 2011.
I was off TANF byJuly 2011 ( so only 6 months of TANF)
During those 6 months of TANF I got $105/mo from the state to live on ( 6x 105= 630.00 )
I got my FIRST cild support check Nov' 2011 ( 11 months after I first applied for child suport assistance)
His monthly child support amount is $848.00
He is BEHIND $9328.00 ( 11mo x 848.00 )
The state says he owes them $3783.00 for the TANF I used ( even though I didnt use that amount but WHATEVER)
That leaves him oweing ME $5,544.00 in back pay. ( are we still together ? or is anyone confused? )
I received child support checks from Nov 2011 till May 2012 ( 6 mo) in the amount of $1098.00 ( 848.00 + 250 for the back support)
CURRENTLY he has paid me $1500.00 of that back support leaving the back pay balance at $4,044.0.
Last month I got a check for $1044.... i was confused but being only $54... I didnt cause a fuss...atleast i got something RIGHT ?
I got my check today instead of $1098....it was $848.00.... but the statements they sent ( last month and for this month) say they sent me $1098.00 Even though that wasnt the amount they sent me.
I should be getting $1098.00 until Nov 2013. After that they should drop to $848.00 Thats when his back pay to ME would end. He would still be paying the state back their $3783.00 for however long that would take.
Im not complaining ... yes it does sound like it but IM NOT. I am just a bit pissed that they are saying they are sending me a certain amount then not sending it when techinally they should be for another year and a half !!
I am on a tight budget that $250 they didnt send me... I cant pay my electric bill, Im short on rent and and I have no gas for my car to get to work. ( work full time)
They cut my child care saying I make too much money... they dropped my food stamps ( we eat what the food bank gives us)
Im am beyond stressed off right now....
So the EX says " if you need anything just ask" so I just asked for a little help... he says " get off your lazy ass and get a couple more jobs"
HIS INCOME IS ROUGHLY $5000/ MO ( hes military getting reg pay plus his housing allowance and currently deployed getting seperation pay, hazardous pay and flight deck pay) but he is more worried about paying for his girlfriend and her kid and THEIR unborn kid then the 2 kids he already has. ( she is one of the reasons I left him) all I asked him was for $250 so that I could get the bills covered.
THEN HE SAYS " LET ME HAVE THE KIDS FOR A YEAR SO YOU CAN GET ON YOUR FEET" ... yes because you having the kids for a year means my bills will dramatically drop ( NOT) and no way in hell am i going to let them stay with him for a year when he was charged with child abuse by the military ( who later sealed the files so i couldnt use it in court on him... along with the domestic violence charges)
im sorry this is so long.... im upset , struggling,,,,, and have no one to talk to about this right now.
If I sound selfish..... im again really sorry... im not ... i HATE asking for help, I hate having to barrow money.... but Im at the point I wont be able to afford rent soon because everything is getting further and further behind.
* deep breath * *** cries***