I can't believe the attitude I see IRL and here on CM about step-kids. When you marry someone who has kids, those kids are now YOUR kids! If you can't embrace those kids as your own, then don't marry or even date someone who has kids!
They aren't. I love them and understand them and respect them as people, but they aren't mine, they are their mother and fathers children.
I love my step daughter, but she is not my child, I am not her parent. She has two capable able bodied parents to be the parents.
I would never have gotten serious about DH if he weren't willing to take on the whole package. it was a while before I even introduced him to my child, because I wasn't going to parade a steady stream of men past him like I was exposed to. and I can say that through all of the trials and tribulations my oldest has put us through, my husband has been there with us every step of the way and has moved mountains to help my son succeed.
I agree.. It sounds bad but before I had kids I said I'd never date someone who had kids. Even now having kids if something ever happened with Dh and I.. I'd rather be single than be someones Step mom. I know I don't have much patience for someone else kids so its just not a good move on my part.
Nope. I've been married to the same person since I was 19. It's been 24 years. But, I imagine it's a lot like dealing with your spouse's parents and siblings, which I also believe are part of the package that you take on when you marry someone.
Quoting incognito116:Are you a step mom?
Ohhhhhh you gonna get it!Now everyone will tell you how horrid their stepkids are and why they have a right to hate them.
leaving baby alone while i do laundry?
- LilyofPhilly
on Jul. 7, 2012 at 11:03 AM