I could not believe what I overheard BM say to SD!!! (long vent)
And so very rude and meanly!!!
I am SM to a wonderful, beautiful, handful of a SD. She is 12. Living with us are our 4 kids ages 5, 3, 1 1/2, and newborn. We get visitations with SD, but her mom has full custody.
She has stayed with us this week for the fourth. Before this she had been with her mom for a week. When school got out for the summer BM dropped her off about 500 miles away with one of BMs friends. So far, all summer long BM has only had her one week.
Tonight my DHs sister and mom said SD could stay with them for a week if she wanted to. We called and cleared this with BM. BM told DH that was fine "I cannot stand that kid" in her very own words.
Well, SD decided she wanted to go home, since she hadn't been home like all summer long and her period just started so she didn't feel good. When she called her mom to tell her this BM RIPPED into her. Telling SD that she had already made plans and "my life doesn't revolve around you" in her words. She was so rude, mean, and harsh about the whole 1 MIN conversation!! I couldn't believe it!! SD just said, fine I will stay then. You could tell she was hurt/upset. I would NEVER tell my kids my life doesn't revolve around them... it does!!! I choose to be a MOM!
I wish she could live with us. But it is a hard decision for us all. She doesn't like being the "big" sister ALL the time. And we own a three bedroom house with 2 kids in each room already (if she was willing to share a room with her sisters, it would be tight but we would still take her in a heartbeat). And BM doesn't want to give up CS. I just couldn't believe my ears!!! If this little girl takes anything away from her time with us I hope it is that family comes first. We all love each other so much here. We share everything and we communicate very openly our feelings and thoughts. I hope this helps her grow into a good person and NOT like her mom. We have had MANY bad issues with her mom in the past (my damn post would go on FOREVER if I went into it, so in short- I had to file a restraining order against her when I was pregnant with DD and lots more CRAZY stuff).
Sorry guys, just had to vent. Ug. I am so shocked right now!!