Need some SERIOUS guy advice. 2nd date and.... *UPDATE UNDER PHOTO*
So my friends Donny & Julie set me up with one of their friends, Craig. He's cute and super nice... probably to a fault. Now Craig has SERIOUS $$$$$. The first date went well. We talked about everything under the sun. Including hobbies... I informed him that photography is a passion of mine. He started questioning me deeper on that subject and got into cameras (which he really doesn't know anything about). I explained to him that while in the process of saving up for the camera I really wanted, the camera I had, broke. I took the money I was saving, and got me a camera to get me by.
By the day after our first date, he started talking like he was in love with me. Never came out and said it, but .... it's pretty obvious. Kinda creeps me out. He's already making plans to take me on trips, plus give me the money that I would be missing out on at work if I go (I'm self employed so I don't get paid days off). Already offering to pay my bills for me (I'm divorced with 3 kids, no child support) because he doesn't want to see me struggle. He's already taking time off work and wants to see me every day. I've had to turn dates down because of wanting to spend time with my kids. I don't get to see my mom very. He also offers to give me money to go see my mom (she lives 3 hours away). Not just gas money, mind you, but also $100-$200 a day so I don't miss out on any income at work.
We went on a second date last night. He showed up with the newer version of the camera I was saving up for, plus a new high speed 16gig memory card, a new camera bag and a lens care kit.. The camera is a Rebel T4i DSLR. $1,100 for the camera alone. I tried to tell him I couldn't accept it and he wouldn't take it back!
He's super nice, but he's moving too fast for me. He's a sensitive soul. I don't want to hurt his feelings, because I think if he could just relax and go slower, things would go better. Help! How do I explain to him without hurting him!?
****Before you ask, no. No sex. I'm a VERY slow mover in that department.
I just got off the phone with Julie. Going over to her house to grill this evening for supper :) I talked to her a little bit and feel a little better about the whole situation. She understands how I feel, but she's also been in touch with Craig. Apparently, he has called her and thanked her over and over for introducing us. He told her things that he told me about how he feels about me. She said that she can see both sides. She sees mine because of everything I've been through in the past, but she sees his side too because he's describing EXACTLY how she felt when she met Donny. Donny heard her side of the conversation, and said "I'm gonna talk to that girl when she gets here." lol We are going to talk more about it this evening. :) I told her that I kinda felt like I was being pressured to have those feelings... I don't think it's intentional though. After talking to Julie, I think maybe I might just be overly cautious due to my past... and *possibly* irrational fears.
Good luck...I hope it all works out.
Buying material things is not as big a deal to people with a lot of money as it is to people on a budget.
Take the camera gracefully, and explain to him that buying you things is not what is going to get your heart , and you need to build an emotional connection also...
At what age should I tell my son dh is not his bio dad?
- praisinghim2day
on Jul. 8, 2012 at 11:10 AM