My husband and I have been together for five years, and married for four. We just had our first child together on June 5th this year and his mother, whom I do not get along with, hasn't seen him. Not only has she not made an effort to come see her grandson, but she hasn't called to ask about him, or even send a text asking how he is or what he looks like. Am I supposed to take the initative and shove him in her face, or should I stick to myself? In reality, it's HER loss because my son is simply amazing and is showered with love by others. However, it just seems like his family isn't that crazy over my son as they are with my husband's first son with his ex gf. Maybe I'm being stupid, but there is definitely something off about it all... In my opinion.
You stick to yourself and tell her to F*** off if she can not call , text write, what have you to see her or hear about her grandson. Its her lost.
ANy friend I've had that already had kids always waited for me to make the first move and give an invite. Give her the benefit of the doubt, for everybody's relationship'ssake and ask her over to see her grandson. ANd say it just like that- 'your grandson'. Then, see how that goes
Quoting Anonymous:
Have you considered maybe she hasn't contacted you because she thinks you hate and might reject her? Sometimes it's simple. I had a similar situation and turned out neither of us had anything against each other..it was a misunderstanding that went on until it was a huge deal over something small. Does your DH want his mother in your lives? If so, why not be the bigger person and try to have some sort of relationship with her?
Not to sound like a toddler, but she's the one that is rejecting me, or has rejected me. I've tried so hard on many occasions to be there for her and get to know her, but I just get criticized and hurt in the process. One minute we'll be okay and then I find out she's talking nastily about me. She thinks I'm a homewrecker because the time my husband and I started dating, he had just broken up with the mother of his first kid. So with me stepping in when I did, I became the homewrecker. :/ The relationship with my DH and his mom isn't too good either. She dropped him off when he was 6 weeks old and never played a huge role in his life, unless he does something she doesn't like. I think deep down, he seeks her approval, but he doesn't express it to me. Like he doesn't come out and say...I wish she would be more active in me and my kids' life. A part of me wants my son to have her in his life, just because I don't want him to grow up and think I kept them apart. However, I don't feel like I should throw him in her face and beg for attention...
Do you ever get hit on even looking a mess?
Why inflict this silly cosmetic pain on a baby!?!
- OwieC
on Jul. 9, 2012 at 9:55 PM