i f***in need advice, this sucks.

[Anonymous]

Backstory:
My bestfriend & I have been friends for 16 years. Well within the past two years we have both changed alot. We had kids, boyfriends, & were trying to get on our feet. She got a car & a job within the last month. 2 months ago i got my own apartment.

My problem:
My bestfriend comes over every couple weeks & stays for a couple days. We live 5 minutes away from eachother. When she comes over she trashes my house, trys runnin shit, not doin anything. Shes really disrespectful. Tonite was my last straw. She got in my sleep area, which is a little couch type thingy, & she took my blanket, my sleep area is barely big enuff for me, we couldnt both fit. I made her a bed on the floor with a blanket &.she refused to.give me my bed & my blanket. Im tired of her tryin to run shit & ive had serious ass talks about it with her & she does NOT care. I love her so much, shes like my sister but im not gonna put up with anyone treating me that way. I almost wanna tell her no more comin over but im not sure how i would even go about it. Ugh! Help!!?

[Eishee]

 Say "This is my shit, bitch.  Get up or get out!"

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

Maybe it sounds petty but even with how she treats me, i couldnt say something like to her..

Quoting Eishee:

 Say "This is my shit, bitch.  Get up or get out!"

[Gracie-May]

You've got to stand up to her and tell her that her actions aren't right, respectful or fair.

[sugarbaby0610]

Pull that bitch out of YOUR bed by HER hair

[Anonymous]

Mo' money mo' problems.

[Eishee]

 Then you have no backbone and I can't help you.  If a so-called friend treats you like that, she has no respect for you or your property. 

Quoting Anonymous:.

Maybe it sounds petty but even with how she treats me, i couldnt say something like to her..

Quoting Eishee:

 Say "This is my shit, bitch.  Get up or get out!"

 

[Starburst72]

why havew you been putting up with this so long? its destroying any friendship you might have left for you to not stand your ground and tell her what an ass hat she is being. just dont let her come over anymore if she doesnt care, then fine, you dont care to have her there. 

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

I could never imagine not seeing her again. I love her like a sister!

Quoting Starburst72:

why havew you been putting up with this so long? its destroying any friendship you might have left for you to not stand your ground and tell her what an ass hat she is being. just dont let her come over anymore if she doesnt care, then fine, you dont care to have her there. 

[Anonymous]

I have a friend that is sort of like that but in different ways. I just tell her to back off a little and she does

[Starburst72]

woman you need healthier boundaries and to realize you deserve respect too. she is treating you like trash cause you allow it. put your foot down, hopefully she will come back in a few weeks and apologize for being such an asshat to her best friend

Quoting Anonymous:

I could never imagine not seeing her again. I love her like a sister!

Quoting Starburst72:

why havew you been putting up with this so long? its destroying any friendship you might have left for you to not stand your ground and tell her what an ass hat she is being. just dont let her come over anymore if she doesnt care, then fine, you dont care to have her there.