Would you support your DH/SO if they wanted to give up visitation except once a year with their kids, due to their ex's being overbearing, demanding, interfering, and the courts will not do anything about it?
Do you think that it would be the right thing to do, to wait until the kid is old enough to decide on their own to have a relationship with their father or not?
Backstory: SO and ex-wife divorced 6 years ago. SO has a 9 year old son. His ex wife has managed to turn SO's entire life upside down, make him miserable, and convince the courts that SO shouldn't have 50/50 custody because it's not stable for SS. She has brain washed their son to the point that he cries and cries whenever he has to come over. He hates his dad and makes it clear he is miserable when he is in our home. She will break CO, over and over again, but every time SO tries doing something, she gets a slap on the wrist and the judge tells SO to "suck it up, you don't always get what you want". She holds back SS from seeing SO during CO visitation days because she wants to do things with SS, or her family has something planned. Just in the two years I have been around, I have seen her play this game multiple times, even in front of me, where she will guilt trip SS when he leaves her. She plays the "poor me" card, saying how lonely she is when he leaves, how he's her whole world and will be so sad when he goes to his dad's. I think this is why SS acts up so badly when he's with SO.
SO is fed up, frustrated, and even though has been to court for several things over the years, his wants are rejected. He has even stated he will pay the same amount of child support, he just wants to have his son more often. He is to the point that he does not care- if SS doesn't want to see him, and it's just going to be a fight with the ex-wife, he doesn't want to do it anymore. He told me he wants to file for custody modification to where he only has SS in the summer for 6 weeks.
We live ten miles from BM.
What do you think?