Who comes first? DH or LO?

[Ama1987]

In your relationship who comes first your Husband/SO or you kids? And why?

Also who does you Husband/SO put first, do you know why?

I think we should put our Husbands first, and that they should put us first. I don't think by puttin Hubby first it means my kids are less important to me, or that I don't care for their needs. It means that my Husband and I are one and I don't think healthy relationships can exist when you don't care for yourself and that includes the one you have chosen to unite with.

I know there comes a time when women have to choose their kids over their Husband/SO. I'm not talking about that type of situation. I think Men have the responsibilty to first care for their women, and if they fail, they can expect her to do all types of things to protect hrself and children.

[peachesforme]

dh comes first.  if you don't have a healthy relationship together, you won't have healthy kids (emotionally speaking)

[Anonymous]

My kids always come First, physically and emotionally and my husband feels the same. When they go to bed we then focus on us.

[Mom2Addison12]

th3ey come together...........they get showers/bathes, fed, drinks etc before i even sit down.

[Ama1987]

What does putting the kids first look like? What does putting a DH first seem like it would look like to you?

Quoting Audreesmommy757:

kids first...us second

[hplesha]

Kids always come first in any circumstance!! My dad always says, your kids are first, you are second.

[PeaceMuch]

The marriage comes first. A healthy marriage to us, means a healthy, happy family. :) and that the kids will always be taken care of by the both of us together, forever.

[Salsacookies]

We both put our kids first. There's always time after DD goes to bed for me to spend time with SO and focus on our relationship. When DD is up and the boys that are due next month, it's about them.

[notjstasocermom]

my marriage comes first.

[Ama1987]

This is how I feel, but it's not like Hubby and I do what we want all the time and ignore our kids, the kids get what they want and we still sacrfice things we want to do things for them, It's more just a state of mind where we know our relationship is important and it's what matters most (or 2nd most to our relationship with God)

Quoting peachesforme:

dh comes first.  if you don't have a healthy relationship together, you won't have healthy kids (emotionally speaking)

[DixieL]

They are both first for different reasons