I don't know what to do about my son

[Anonymous]

I don't know what to do about my son. He's two. And he beats me up. He will give me hugs and kisses and then just attack me. Hit me, pull my hair, poke me in the eye, throw things at me, pinch me, you name it.

He's not even upset about anything most of the time when he does this. He just thinks it is funny. I don't know what to do. Right now, it's really just me he does this to, but I can't stand it; he hurts me; and I don't want him to start it with anyone else, but I don't know how to get him to stop. I've tried yelling, time outs, talking, walking away, and even crying so he knows he has hurt me, but NOTHING works.

I feel like a failure of a mom.

[Starburst72]

you have to actively consistantly redirect him and tell him no about hitting you. he is only 2 so this will be frustrating for a bit while you teach him no

[Charliesmommy11]

It's a phase , but be firm ,direct , and consistent with the punishment and it should end sooner rather than later. When he starts to hit immediately stop whatever activity was going on , hold his arms down to stop the hitting motions , firmly say no we do not hit hitting hurts , get up and walk away and be somewhere he can't get to you . After a few minutes return but ignore until he approaches you tell him I love you but it hurts mommy very badly when you hit. Keep this up and you should notice a decline in the behavior .

You are not a failure , this is just one of those moments no one prepared us for .

[KairisMama]

My 2 yo thinks pinching and hitting is funny too. I tell him no, not nice. I show him a gentle touch. If it keeps up he goes in time out. Yeah its like a game to him. Ugh.

[spunky946]

Be consistent with punishment

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

How do you even do a time out? I can't even contain him and he sure as hell won't stay put on his own.
Thanks for the advice, ladies.

[KairisMama]

I make him sit by the dining room wall. If he gets up I keep putting him back. He knows now that when hes there he stays put until I have him come out.

Quoting Anonymous:

How do you even do a time out? I can't even contain him and he sure as hell won't stay put on his own.

Thanks for the advice, ladies.

[Elle.tea.22]

Hurt him back (don't body slam him :P) give him a pinch he'll never forget so he doesn't pick on you since you hit harder. If you have pets be careful cause he might attack them instead.

[-JellyfishEgg-]

I used to hold my son down in my lap for time outs. He has learned to stay put now but it took a lot of effort. Good luck and stay consistent.

[Anonymous]

Put the fear of god into him. Turn up the volumr (your tone of voice) and let him know exactly who is boss and what the rules are. Think of a fitting punishment and FOLLOW THROUGH! Most importantly, cease all encouragment of said behavior. For example, if tickling gets him wound up and all fiesty, no more tickling. Also, watch nanny 911. Thrtes some good shit on there :)

[Charliesmommy11]

That's never a good idea . How can you teach a child not to hurt someone if your hurting them ?

For example , a toddler has a biting problem so the mom thinks if she bites him back he will understand Ouch that hurts I shouldn't bite . Wrong , children don't think like that . Monkey see monkey do. Why should I stop biting if she bites too ?

Quoting Elle.tea.22:

Hurt him back (don't body slam him :P) give him a pinch he'll never forget so he doesn't pick on you since you hit harder. If you have pets be careful cause he might attack them instead.