I don't know what to do about my son
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He's not even upset about anything most of the time when he does this. He just thinks it is funny. I don't know what to do. Right now, it's really just me he does this to, but I can't stand it; he hurts me; and I don't want him to start it with anyone else, but I don't know how to get him to stop. I've tried yelling, time outs, talking, walking away, and even crying so he knows he has hurt me, but NOTHING works.
I feel like a failure of a mom.
Maybe if more parents disciplined thier children appropriately, they wouldn't act the way they do!
There is a time and place for spanking. Hitting a 2 year old out of anger, because he will not stop hitting, is not it. It WILL make it worse.
Quoting Anonymous:
If more parents spanked there damn kids then they wouldnt act the way they do i believe in spanking and will continue to believe in it so piss off. And her son needs a good spanking and he will stop 2 years old he knows better period
Quoting Anonymous:Yes, hitting a two year old that is hitting you will definitely teach them to stop hitting............?
Quoting Anonymous:he needs to be spanked that type of behavior does not sit will in my house hold. time outs and ect work sometimes. however for situations like this you need to stop it NOW before its too late and when he becomes older he will think that its ok to hit on mom and any other woman at that
time outs are immediate for hitting in my home. if the child does not stay in the designated spot, I get all super nanny on him. WIthout saying a word, just keep putting him back into the TO spot. my son, I literally had to do this like 30 times once to get him to stay put
BE CONSISTENT
Do it back to him gently, but enough to hurt. He'll catch on.
consistancy. He is 2. It's a phase... if this behavior goes on as he gets older, then it's time to seek out help. But for now, be consistant, and discipline. Never reward his behavior or ignore.
Well actually, you can try ignoring it to see if he stops, but chances are he will just get more aggressive looking for more attention! Try positive reinforcement as well.. Maybe he just wants more attention. I don't know!
I had a biter in my 2 year old class we didn't allow him to play anywhere near other children because he would draw blood. He needed to be kicked out but the owner liked the money. Anyway outside one day a was in the sandbox and bit another child. The othe child bit him and neither one of them would let each other go. He stopped biting after a couple more times. We would point to his huge bruised and scabby bite mark and say owie.
Every child is different and what works for some won't work for all.
Quoting Charliesmommy11:
That's never a good idea . How can you teach a child not to hurt someone if your hurting them ?
For example , a toddler has a biting problem so the mom thinks if she bites him back he will understand Ouch that hurts I shouldn't bite . Wrong , children don't think like that . Monkey see monkey do. Why should I stop biting if she bites too ?
Quoting Elle.tea.22:
Hurt him back (don't body slam him :P) give him a pinch he'll never forget so he doesn't pick on you since you hit harder. If you have pets be careful cause he might attack them instead.
Quoting Anonymous:Maybe if more parents disciplined thier children appropriately, they wouldn't act the way they do!
There is a time and place for spanking. Hitting a 2 year old out of anger, because he will not stop hitting, is not it. It WILL make it worse.
Quoting Anonymous:
If more parents spanked there damn kids then they wouldnt act the way they do i believe in spanking and will continue to believe in it so piss off. And her son needs a good spanking and he will stop 2 years old he knows better period
Quoting Anonymous:Yes, hitting a two year old that is hitting you will definitely teach them to stop hitting............?
Quoting Anonymous:he needs to be spanked that type of behavior does not sit will in my house hold. time outs and ect work sometimes. however for situations like this you need to stop it NOW before its too late and when he becomes older he will think that its ok to hit on mom and any other woman at that
Spanking as a form of discipline is never supposed to be a knee jerk reaction (anger). It's supposed to be understood first WHY the spanking is coming, and let's face it, not all 2 year old's can comprehend that much. Even if a spank is NOT out of anger on your part, the child will see it that way. Again, this will make it worse whether he continues to be physical with mom/authority, or downloads that physical aggression is an appropriate way to work things out, OR to stifle what he's feeling out of fear of getting smacked - leading to a passive aggressive, anxious, fearful personality. It depends on the child.
I'm not saying don't spank ever, you seem to be glazing over that part. I will agree to disagree.
OP - if the behavior hasn't stopped in a few more weeks I'd ask your child's pediatrician for advice. If it makes you feel better, for a lot of kids it is a phase they get over pretty quickly. :)
Quoting Anonymous:
How is that out of anger!? You have a kid hitting bitting and ect to his mom and the methods she has used to stop him from doing it has not worked as you can see. So a smack on the butt is not going to kill him. Your entitled to your opinion and so am i. If my kid does somethhing she knows better not to do she will be spanked! Simple as that....
Quoting Anonymous:Maybe if more parents disciplined thier children appropriately, they wouldn't act the way they do!
There is a time and place for spanking. Hitting a 2 year old out of anger, because he will not stop hitting, is not it. It WILL make it worse.
Quoting Anonymous:
If more parents spanked there damn kids then they wouldnt act the way they do i believe in spanking and will continue to believe in it so piss off. And her son needs a good spanking and he will stop 2 years old he knows better period
Quoting Anonymous:Yes, hitting a two year old that is hitting you will definitely teach them to stop hitting............?
Quoting Anonymous:he needs to be spanked that type of behavior does not sit will in my house hold. time outs and ect work sometimes. however for situations like this you need to stop it NOW before its too late and when he becomes older he will think that its ok to hit on mom and any other woman at that
are you ok with another woman calling your husband "hun" or "babe"