#1. DD, 7 yrs old: just spent the 7 weeks of summer at her dad's and came back with the biggest, bratty attitude that makes me want to scream. I understand she is his only child but we have been doing the summers like this for 3 years and every time she comes home she has gained 7-10 lbs (this year 8 lbs) and I have to buy a whole new wardrobe for school. Buying clothes is not an issue. It's the fact that her dad does not see the problem with her now being 15-20 lbs over the weight range for her height...not even her age, just her height! She has a huge case of the "I want that" syndrome when she comes back and then IF she gets it, it gets played with twice. I clean out toy boxes 2-3 times a year and she throws a huge hissy fit over cheap $1 toys but has no problem handing over a $30 toy she begged for. It's so frustrating there are days I want to slap her.
*my brag* although she frustrates me she is extremely smart and helpfull when she wants to be. I love her dearly.
#2. DS, 5 yr old mildly autistic: his most obvious Autistic issue is his expressive speech but he has more issues that are less obvious to the public that I deal with daily. I know he lacks empathy and so expecting him to feel sorry is useless but I still make him say it. He understands that hitting/kicking/biting is not allowed but there are days he still does it and this week has been a fight fest. He knows everything he needs to know for school but his emotional and understandability is of a 3 year old. Finding appropriate discipline that works is a lot harder. On top of those issues we have ADHD type hyperness. So not only does he bounce off the walls, he doesn't care (lacks empathy) who gets hurt in the process. I try to keep him busy but I run out of things he can do without me hovering. I can't sit him down with a coloring book while I wash dishes, been there, done that and he found a way to write on my table, my wall and ate crayons.
*my brag* he is smart and can do tons on his own. I feel blessed that his issues are as mild as they are, no matter how frustrating they make me.
#3. DS, 3 yrs old: He has always been a highly needy child. When the other kids were babies, I could put them in the swing or on the floor with toys while I went to the bathroom, did laundry or dishes...super easy. Not #3. He would not sleep without feeling skin to skin contact. He would not sit in a swing or bouncer. I finally bought a sling just to carry him and be able to get housework done. As he has gotten older he has loosened his grip on me thankfully. When he was 9 months due to the economy, we ended up having to move into my MIL's. Up to this time we seen her 4-6 times a year. We move in and honestly, the extra hands with #3 was a huge relief for both my husband and I. We were there a year and a half, in which time MIL showed a ton of favoritism to #3. Out right going against us and our rules. I fought for my standing but my MIL ignored me. We finally got out. Moved a state away. Now, even a year after leaving, he is a brat. If someone looks at him wrong he let's out this high pitched, ear splitting scream that just racks my nerves. This scream around MIL got him what he wanted but it doesn't for me. It pisses me off. This week he gas screamed about his food, things his siblings do, his sibling was in the bathroom when he needed to go...the list goes on. I have taught him how to take a deep breath to calm down but he still screams first then breaths. He also talks extremely loud. He has no quiet mode.
*my brag* when we do one on one time he is full of sweetness and loves to laugh...also extremely loud.
#4. DS, 17 months: he just hit an extremely clingy phase and is climbing on everything. If I leave the room I have to leave every door I go through open or he has a meltdown. His dad is not a sufficient substitute in his eyes. If I try to clean he is in the middle of it or screaming.
*my brag* I finally got a mama's boy! He loves doing stuff himself.
While I know that a lot of them seems like normal kid stuff but them all together doing the normal sibling pestering stuff is stressing me out. We don't get to go out much and it adds to them and me.