Do I have a right to know?????????

[Anonymous]

My mom had a kid she put up for adoption 8 yrs before I was born.  Back then having a kid outta wedlock (in her area) was taboo and she went to a home for unwed mom's, and gave the baby up for adoption and came back home.  I found out from a sibling this happened (found out about 2 years ago, and BTW this all took place in 1967 to give you an idea).  I asked my mom shortly thereafter about it and she refused to give me any info and said the Dad was a real ass, and that her adopted out baby called her in 1990 looking for money and threatening to call everyone she knew to tell them about her "bastard child" if she didn't give "said baby" money.  She never did and he never followed through.

I am still curious, and I am not sure the whole story about what my mom said about her long lost baby is even true (maybe a tactic to keep me from looking up the sibling)?

Do I have a right to know about tthem/look him up, etc?

Please don't bash.  I have no idea what to do.  Thanks.

[Christywf]

BUMP!

[JLS2388]

IMO no and also, at that time, it would have been a closed adoption so more then likely, there won't be a way for you to find the person anyway

[Godgaveme4]

 Nope.  Your mom made a decision and it was hers.  She is not required or obligated to share any info with you.

[The_Doodle]

I think if your mom isn't willing to revisit that part of her life than you should respect that.

[TurtleSquish]

No. My mom gave her baby up in 1978 and it was closed. Just because she's my mom doesn't mean I should pry into her business

[TurtleSquish]

I was born 9 years after. My sister was born 2 years after

[atyou]

No. You don't.

[LucyMom08]

This...

Quoting Godgaveme4:

 Nope.  Your mom made a decision and it was hers.  She is not required or obligated to share any info with you.

[ashescee]

I would try to find him

[HIJKLM]

I would want to know but I don't think you have a "right"