Am I a failure? (*edit*)
- 10 Replies
OK, so the title is harsh, but...DD is 3 and we've only taken away the pacifier this week (it's going badly). She is not toilet trained, either. (She has no medical problems and is very smart.) She's pretty much pee trained but will NOT poop on the toilet no matter what. I am told it will just click, but I realize I should have taken away the paci sooner and that she should already be toilet trained. I feel terrible. (The dentist has been telling us for months and months that she needs to get rid of the paci, so the "paci fairy" recently made a visit.)
*Sorry I was not clear. I am not saying these two issues are related. They are just happening at the same time.
Quoting Starburst72:
lots of kids are notpotty trained at age 3. the paci has nothing to do with her potty issues . kids cannot control much in their lives at her age, but she can control when and where she poops. she is making this a battle of wills.
Right. I didn't mean to imply the two issues were related, they are just happening at the same time (bad, I know!) I am trying to be casual about the pooping. Some people finish dinner out with dessert. We finish with dd under the table, pooping in her diaper.
Quoting Anonymous:
Quoting Starburst72:
lots of kids are notpotty trained at age 3. the paci has nothing to do with her potty issues . kids cannot control much in their lives at her age, but she can control when and where she poops. she is making this a battle of wills.
Right. I didn't mean to imply the two issues were related, they are just happening at the same time (bad, I know!) I am trying to be casual about the pooping. Some people finish dinner out with dessert. We finish with dd under the table, pooping in her diaper.
you can try bribes, that sometimes works to get a kid potty pooping, a little basket with rewards like small candies and small toys are what some parents have found successful. i simply stopped battling my son and let him do it in his own tme.
Who said she should be toilet trained by now, the poop police???
My daughter would pee in the toilet by age two, but would ask for a diaper to poop while hiding in her room until age three....no idea why. Then she just went in the toilet on her own one day.
No failures......It will come.
Quoting Starburst72:
Quoting Anonymous:
Quoting Starburst72:
lots of kids are notpotty trained at age 3. the paci has nothing to do with her potty issues . kids cannot control much in their lives at her age, but she can control when and where she poops. she is making this a battle of wills.
Right. I didn't mean to imply the two issues were related, they are just happening at the same time (bad, I know!) I am trying to be casual about the pooping. Some people finish dinner out with dessert. We finish with dd under the table, pooping in her diaper.
you can try bribes, that sometimes works to get a kid potty pooping, a little basket with rewards like small candies and small toys are what some parents have found successful. i simply stopped battling my son and let him do it in his own tme.
Oh, yes, I have tried bribes. I am beyond that. I told her we'll go on a cruise (for real) if she poops in the toilet. When she sits and squats, I ask if she'd poop in the potty, she says no, and that's that. Once I dragged her screaming onto the toilet and she wound up not pooping (scared it back in), so I never did that again. I don't want to constipate her.
You are not a failure...She will adjust to life without paci and she will poo train. You have some difficult days ahead but you will all get thru them just fine.
Try taking your dd somewhere fun, park, zoo, swimming, etc...and tell her she can't go back until she's potty trained. Bribery is awful but it helps!
Each child is different when it comes to potty training. I don't think the pacifier has anything to do with it at all. Don't beat yourself up.....it will happen when it happens. Just encourage her to go poop when she goes to pee
Quoting Starburst72:lots of kids are notpotty trained at age 3. the paci has nothing to do with her potty issues . kids cannot control much in their lives at her age, but she can control when and where she poops. she is making this a battle of wills.
She's crying and screaming for the paci. I feel terrible. She's out of sorts and pissed off. I wonder if this will scar her? Last night, she was up till midnight, tonight, with my husband's help, she fell asleep at 10:30 (we put her to bed/stories at 8:30). She needs to learn how to self-soothe; she screams, "I need something to suck on." I feel horrible and wish I never gave her the thing when she was an infant but that's neither here nor there at this point.
Do you ever get hit on even looking a mess?
Why inflict this silly cosmetic pain on a baby!?!