My 5yo DD totally called her bio dad out on his BS! haha!
A little back story. I split from my kids dad a couple years ago. For about 8 months we shared custody, 50/50. Then, last March he up and moved out of state. He didn't see the girls (now 3 &5) for about 4 months. Then, he decided he wanted to see them again.
At this point, he comes up here once a month, takes them Friday around bedtime and brings them back either Saturday evening or Sunday morning.
He has more than once told my kids he was coming for a visit, and then flaked. He tells them "oh we are gonna go do this and this while I am there" and then they don't.
Most recently, he took my 5yo for a week. (3yo couldn't go due to a staph infection in her nose) He told my 5yo that they were gonna go to Yellowstone with his family. She was SO excited. And then, he flaked on the Yellowstone trip. Apparently she spent the entire trip either at his Sister's house or one of his friends houses. So, she came back very VERY upset.
Anyway, he called her the other night. They were talking, he asked what she was doing and she said "Me and sissy are playing candyland and hungry hungry hippos!!"
He replied, "Oh really?! Those are my favorite games EVER!"
My DD said, "Oh yeah dad? Then why don't you have them at your house to play with then?"
He said "Well, I guess I will have to get them so we can play with them when I see you next!"
DD said "Whatever dad, you say a bunch of stuff but never actually do it. Love you, BYE."
Then handed the phone back to me.
I had to stifle my laughter. Under normal circumstances, she would not get away with speaking to an adult like that. But you know what? He brought it on himself. He needed to hear that. I am sure he is telling himself I put that in her head, but I do NOT talk crap about him to the kids EVER!!!! She is smart, and she is starting to catch on to his crap. And I am glad. Maybe she can get through to him. Who knows, he will probably find a way to be the victim.
This little girl has had her heart broken by him over and over. And, I think that now she has a "daddy" figure (my SO) who is always there for her, does not make a promise he doesn't intend to keep, and he I think in general fills the void her Father left - but I think that is making her see the difference.
I feel bad for my babies. I really do. It is sad. I wish my ex didn't let them down all the time, but it is what it is.
And, Ok, I did laugh a little about it later.
What adults forget sometimes is that children do grow up and see things for themselves.
About 6 months ago, she asked my SO if she could call him Daddy. (Surprise surprise, it was after bio dad broke a promise, and my SO made it up to her because she was devastated)
We all had a big family session with her counselor to find out why she wanted him to be daddy. And her reasoning? Because he keeps promises, tucks her in at night, kisses boo boos, etc. All the things a daddy does.
She knows her bio dad is also her daddy, but I think she is starting to really see the difference. It is sad, but out of my control unless my ex decides to step up!
Quoting zadesmom1998:
My ds 8 did this with his dad a couple months ago. He still flakes and still makes promises he has no way of keeping but he loves him. He even told him that my df was his dad and he was the play date. He only ends up getting him a couple hours every month. Bio dad said he was devastated to me but still no changes.
Quoting SweetPea05:It was SO hard not to bust up laughing right then and there.... lol
Quoting proudmommy690:
lmao! good for her!!!!
;D I have no doubt she'll be able to handle her own when she gets into those terrible ages of all the other girls trying to be bratty and make fun of her. With a snappy comeback like that to her own dad, imagine what brilliance would fall off her tounge if it were teenager vs. teenager.
Quoting SweetPea05:LOL right?! Ugh, I try to stay totally neutral though. I do have to admit, I was proud of her for standing up to him.
Quoting Candymonster:Oh man, I'd take her out for icecream, a movie, and a toy for that...
That's the ugliest name everrrr!!!
- SweetPea05
on Jul. 13, 2012 at 7:09 PM