I was a single mother to my first child. Her father died while I was pregnant so a father was never present during that time. And 4 years later here I am with a newborn baby boy and dad has been around. Our son is now 3 weeks old, hasn't really caught on yet. He works at home, and has witness the routine I have going on. Im breastfeeding and have pumped to allow him to feed. I don't want him feeling left out, but last night, I would have figured "father instincts" would kick in but they haven't. Our son is in our room in a bassinet and he never heard him cry. I was so exhausted and didn't want to get up and I had already pumped a bottle before bed so he could get up and feed him and I was like can you get him, he said yep sure, rolled over and went back to sleep. :( I'm like really? I nudge him and he was like yeah I will in a second.
A few days ago, he got pissed off because he fell asleep with the baby in his arms and I took him and put him in his crib. I'm like dude you roll in your sleep and if you rolled on him you would never know. He was like well you do it. I'm like well no shit, but I don't roll either and this definitely isn't my first rodeo with a baby.
I've watched my siblings as new parents and they have caught on so quickly, what's up with my SO? should I take him to the library and get him some books. I tried telling him I can't really teach him things, only things like how to feed from a bottle, burp, change a diaper. (For a newborn) I'm like the older he gets you will get the hand of it