My 4 1/2 year old son keep stealing things of mine and either breaking them, hiding them, or if it's make up, smearing it all over the walls. He steals food from the fridge and tries to hide it, he steal odds and ends out of cabinets, he rips books.
I cannot count how many times I have disciplined him for this kind of behavior. Time-outs don't work. He laughs at me if I spank him. I am sick of it. I am tired of throwing money away because he just ruins everything that he knows I like. Today was yet another time when he went into my room, took my make up and painted mascara, eyeshadow, and everything else on his wall. IMO that is what a 2 year old does, not a 4 year old.
I don't know what to do. I went into his room and filled a bag with his toys to toss. He cried, but I don't care. He needs to learn that you can't just steal and destroy other peoples things.
Am I being to harsh on him? He is 4 1/2 and I expect him to be over the shredding of books and the destruction of things. We currently live in a very small apartment and there is no way that everything can be up and out of his reach. How the hell do I get it across to him that his behavior is not ok? Oh and I wish I could just take him to the Dr and rule out things, but I don't have the money for that. Any advice would be great, I am almost to the end of my rope.