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If your teen was told this... EDIT for clarification

Posted by on Jul. 16, 2012 at 12:15 PM
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is her last chance to have a child, how would you feel? She's 18, married, with one child already. If she doesn't, then she can never have another one.

Edit: i'm not asking if you would "allow" her. I know she's an adult and it's her choice. But would you support her decision to do so?

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Posted by on Jul. 16, 2012 at 12:15 PM
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Dinimon
by Platinum Member on Jul. 16, 2012 at 12:16 PM
Wouldn't know until I'm in that situation. It also depends on a few things.
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Two_Hearts
by Silver Member on Jul. 16, 2012 at 12:16 PM
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I put other. 

it would all depend.

Yes she may be married , but that does not mean anything. 

It would all depend on how she was as a parent..is she a good mom? 

Does she make good responsible choices ? 

Could she afford another one at this moment ? 

If all of those questions were a yes , they i would support her.

NDADanceMom
by on Jul. 16, 2012 at 12:17 PM

If she is stable and ready in other ways... sure.  If she was poor, immature, etc I would tell her that she can only handle the one child.  Maybe in the future medical advances will give her another or she could adopt. 

saltyalley1227
by on Jul. 16, 2012 at 12:17 PM
Would depend on the situation.
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fallenangel_353
by Nikki on Jul. 16, 2012 at 12:18 PM
This.

Quoting Two_Hearts:

I put other. 

it would all depend.

Yes she may be married , but that does not mean anything. 

It would all depend on how she was as a parent..is she a good mom? 

Does she make good responsible choices ? 

Could she afford another one at this moment ? 

If all of those questions were a yes , they i would support her.

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laura_sims
by on Jul. 16, 2012 at 12:18 PM

If she is in a stable and committed relationship and supporting themselves and were able to support another child then i would be happy whatever they decided to do.

I was 18 when i had my second child 

tracylynnr67
by on Jul. 16, 2012 at 12:19 PM
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She's 18 and married so only she and her husband get to make that choice. 

notjstanothrmom
by Platinum Member on Jul. 16, 2012 at 12:22 PM

If she was 18 and married and already had a child and was a good mom and could afford to support another child and she wanted one then yes.

I had my second child when I was 20 and my first at 18. It was not an ideal time to have a child the first time but I knew I wanted them close in age and it was the best decision to have them both. We can financially support them and I think we do a pretty good job being the best parents we can.

alexsmomaubrys2
by Ruby Member on Jul. 16, 2012 at 12:22 PM

I probably wouldn't encourage her. There is always adoption later on when she is ready for another.

Personally, I would feel a little like a failure if my daughter ws 18, married and with a child.

atyou
by on Jul. 16, 2012 at 12:23 PM
I'd support whatever decision she made. 100%





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