DF wants to press charges...*small update*

[Anonymous]

DF is looking into pressing Identity Theft charges against his mom. she has stolen his social security card and birth certificate and has accumulated over $3,500 in credit fraud and telephone/television bills. He called the cops to do a welfare check on his mom and sister(12yo) and they have been evicted/moved from their trailer. no one can find them and they have changed their phone numbers and everything. also they have used his credit to apply for several apartments. DF is at a loss and doesnt know what happened and what to do. advice would be great! and he hasnt heard from his mom since june 19th. we had spent the night and thats when she took his social security card. can he ask for a missing persons report? thank you ladies, no bashing please. if you want more info ask, I will gladly give it. several events have happened in the past 6 months to cause this. *update* we talked to our local cop today. she informed us that DF has a few options. he can call the utilities, television and phone and apartment for forwarding addresses. we can not issue a missing person report due to the fact his brother and gf and kids are gone as well. he is going to call the pharmacy because the bill is in his name(he was paying for it). and once he has an address to call dhs and police(town they live in) for a welfare check. and she also told him to prepare for criminal charges. he doesnt want to honestly but i told him he needs to before october when we get married. i will update when we talk with the other places*

[KeepJeep]

He can definitely file a missing person report especially since a child is involved. The authorities will take it very seriously. Good luck.

[tarakay0417]

I would contact lawyer first. And maybe flag his credit report.

[Anonymous]

So she committed a crime and he wants to press charges.  Support him.  Good for him. 

[Anonymous]

I pressed charges on my twin for the same thing. :( I didn't want to but I can't afford that crap and it was the only way to start to repair my credit. I also spent two weeks in jail twice because of warrants she got in my name and bounced checks.

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

oh, I back him 1000% as well as my family. I am the one that keeps pushing him to press charges. I also called cps to do a check and they told me they were gone with no forwarding address or number.

Quoting Anonymous:

So she committed a crime and he wants to press charges.  Support him.  Good for him. 

[Kymbi]

Some credit cards charges or new accounts won't be rerversed if you don't press charges. If he doesn't want to be responsible for the money, then that might be his only recourse. I would support him on that regardless.

I'd also support filing a missing persons report. For the safety of his sister if nothing else.

[mdatca]

He is in a bad spot.  How did he find out she was using his ID?  She had to have been using his SSN long before June 19 if there are things already on his credit report.  The first bills on things would coming due soon if it has just been since then and there wouldn't be anything but requests on it yet.  You don't need the physical card just know the number for many things and I am sure that she knows his number from when he was a minor.  The only thing that would show on his credit report since June 19th would be inquiries for credit requests since then so there is a chance more will be showing up.  He needs to at the very least put a flag with all three credit reporting agencies to stop any new things to be opened.  Then if he wants to prevent his credit from being shot to hell he has 3 choices.  The first is to file the ID theft charges.  The second would be is to subscribe to a service where he can look at his credit report as much as he wants and that they will alert him to any changes on it.  then as accounts hit he would need to contact the creditors explain the situation but will pay the bills because he doesn't want to press charges and pay them and close the accounts.  He would need to check and see if she has made herself an authorized person on the accounts to make sure she can't call and re-open them.  The 3rd would be wait until he starts getting sued and file bankruptcy but that will be damaging to his credit rating.  Is there a chance that she will pay the bills?  I doubt it.

I have a few ideas for trying to find them if he doesn't want to file a missing persons report.  I am wondering if he went to one of the apartments that "he" applied for if he could see the application and can get her contact number from it.  Or wait until school is back in session and go to his sister's school and see if she is there.  Are there any other family members who might know their where abouts?  If not then I think he should report them missing for the best interest of his sister.  What will happen to her if her mother is not able to provide for her?  You two need to think about whether you would take her in or even both of them because it doesn't seem that his mother is in good shape financially or mentally.

[Anonymous]

I would press charges to keep from being charged the money, but also file a missing persons report... You might be able to track her down through his financial statement.

[Allebas]

Press charges!! Call the credit bureaus and have them flag his social security number!! What she is doing, is VERY SERIOUS felony!!!! Good luck!!

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

we have a slight lead that his oldest brother had moved them in with them and fled the town. so kinda like kidnapping. df and I are willing to fight tooth an nail for his sis. she sent me a text a few weeks ago proclaiming she is scared of her environment and wants to live with us. we both have tomorrow off and will be working our butts off to get every thing straightened out. his family has completely turned on him and abandoned him.

Quoting mdatca:

He is in a bad spot.  How did he find out she was using his ID?  She had to have been using his SSN long before June 19 if there are things already on his credit report.  The first bills on things would coming due soon if it has just been since then and there wouldn't be anything but requests on it yet.  You don't need the physical card just know the number for many things and I am sure that she knows his number from when he was a minor.  The only thing that would show on his credit report since June 19th would be inquiries for credit requests since then so there is a chance more will be showing up.  He needs to at the very least put a flag with all three credit reporting agencies to stop any new things to be opened.  Then if he wants to prevent his credit from being shot to hell he has 3 choices.  The first is to file the ID theft charges.  The second would be is to subscribe to a service where he can look at his credit report as much as he wants and that they will alert him to any changes on it.  then as accounts hit he would need to contact the creditors explain the situation but will pay the bills because he doesn't want to press charges and pay them and close the accounts.  He would need to check and see if she has made herself an authorized person on the accounts to make sure she can't call and re-open them.  The 3rd would be wait until he starts getting sued and file bankruptcy but that will be damaging to his credit rating.  Is there a chance that she will pay the bills?  I doubt it.

I have a few ideas for trying to find them if he doesn't want to file a missing persons report.  I am wondering if he went to one of the apartments that "he" applied for if he could see the application and can get her contact number from it.  Or wait until school is back in session and go to his sister's school and see if she is there.  Are there any other family members who might know their where abouts?  If not then I think he should report them missing for the best interest of his sister.  What will happen to her if her mother is not able to provide for her?  You two need to think about whether you would take her in or even both of them because it doesn't seem that his mother is in good shape financially or mentally.