single moms have it easier than a married couple financially.

[Anonymous]

Out of all my friends I am the only married one. They either have a bf or fiancee living with them. They all get help with childcare through the state and pay around $26-40 a week for fulltime childcare as to where since I am.married we don't qualify for that cheap amount. They get energy assistance and pay $26 a MONTH to run their ac 24/7.. I run ours and the Damn bill is $300!! Dh and I have seriously thought about getting a divorce just so we could live cheap.

[Anonymous]

This, I had a friend that didn't report her bf living with them, they found out, and she was ordered to pay it all back.

Quoting Kat31:

Are they not reporting their SO living with them? Than they are committing fraud. I don't see what marriage has to do with it. They are lying about income.

[Texas111]

I don't know any in this situation (including myself). I'm a single mom of 3 kids, and my ex pays no child support. I "earn too much" to qualify for any financial help. However, by the time I'm done paying all the bills plus food, daycare, school suppies, medical costs, health insurance, braces, birthdays, etc. -- I am out of money days before the next paycheck. We make it, though. It's just definitely NOT easier than if I were married, financially. That's crazy to say, from my point of view. But maybe for some this is the case.

[Anonymous]

Taxes (off the top of my head)

Quoting Anonymous:

lol...why do you think alot of people aren't rushing to get married these days? where's the real benefit in being married?

[Monamou]

Thats fraud. If he lives there and contributes to food or bills they are legally required to report that income. Married/baby daddy has 0 to do with income. When my ex/ dds father lived w me, we claimed his income and mine. I could have "pretended" he didnt live their and say he paid little support but thats illegal.

Quoting Anonymous:

They are reporting everything but some of the bf are not the fathers of the children so his income doesn't matter and say he isn't living there bc u can't prove that with not being married.

Quoting Kat31:

Are they not reporting their SO living with them? Than they are committing fraud. I don't see what marriage has to do with it. They are lying about income.

[cadeesmommy0120]

 I'm a single mom, not on PA, I don't live with my SO(not dd's father), the only reason I get cheap daycare is because I can take her on base.  My life isn't easy, but it could be WAY worse. 

[VannaMae307]

What a poor reason.

PUN ALERT!!!!

[Anonymous]

I was a single mom and never got PA.  Never even qualified.  Seems owning my own house and my car outright were a deterrent.  Fine by me.  I'd rather live in my own house by my own rules instead of government subsidized living.  At least I had something to show for my money and I earned it on my own.

[alwayskk]

Your case worker must have been new or something.

It even says on the application that all persons living in the house will be considered. Biological fathers who were never married to the biological mother end up having to pay back the state for the monies used to pay for medicaid for the pregnant mother and unborn child.

Quoting blue_elephant:

I reported it and they told me even though we are living together his income doesn't count until we are married...
Could be because I only had medicaid though...

Quoting alwayskk:

If you're living together and he is paying any portion of the bills, it is supposed to be reported.

Quoting blue_elephant:

You are wrong, until you are married they don't count your boyfriends/girlfriends incomes.

I yelled at medicaid about this, told them my so made too much and I don't qualify anymore, and they told me his income doesn't count until we are married...

Quoting Kat31:

Are they not reporting their SO living with them? Than they are committing fraud. I don't see what marriage has to do with it. They are lying about income.

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

Exactly what blue said!

Quoting blue_elephant:

I reported it and they told me even though we are living together his income doesn't count until we are married...

Could be because I only had medicaid though...

Quoting alwayskk:

If you're living together and he is paying any portion of the bills, it is supposed to be reported.

Quoting blue_elephant:

You are wrong, until you are married they don't count your boyfriends/girlfriends incomes.


I yelled at medicaid about this, told them my so made too much and I don't qualify anymore, and they told me his income doesn't count until we are married...

Quoting Kat31:

Are they not reporting their SO living with them? Than they are committing fraud. I don't see what marriage has to do with it. They are lying about income.

[Anonymous]

 If they are not reporting all the income from th BF or fiance they are commiting fraud. Not all single mothers rely on PA to live. I didnt realize so many people wanted to live that way........