Having "The Talk" with Your Kids, at Every Age: What's the Best Way?
"Mommy, where do babies come from?"
All kids ask the question eventually, it's our job as parents to help our children understand their bodies and how "the birds and the bees" work.
But what do kids need to know, and what's the best way to explain everything? In this episode, you'll get expert advice on what to say and when to say it (even if they're teenagers who don't want to hear it from you!).
Have you had "the talk" with your kids yet? How did it go?
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I think it depends on the childs age. My 7 yr old has not asked where babies come from yet. She has asked how they come out. I asked what she thought and she replied that she was cut out of mommys belly (c-section) and we left it there
Really -- are you guys serious!? It hurt and you bled? That was not my experience at all! I didn't bleed... at all. it also didn't hurt, but felt damn good. I had an amazing orgasim. It was like taking the first "hit" ... probably the best time. LOL
Quoting Anonymous:
Shoot, it hurt me! I cried! And I bled like a period! It was so awful and I was sooooo scared to do it again. But it was fine after that first time.
Quoting llheet8586:
Quoting Armadillo79:
I am very open with my 13 yr old. She's allowed to ask me anything she wants, so she is not embarassed. She asked me the other day if it hurts the first time you have sex. You bet your ass it does. It is not roses and you bleed and it will make you not want to have sex anymore. I have told her to be honest with me. I was always told "DONT HAVE SEX". Well guess what? I am going to. And I did. And I was dumb and didn't know what ovulation was, how EASY it was to get pregnant, was too scared to ask for birth control, etc. I do not want that for my daughter. Do I tell her my hopes that she wont until she's old enough? Yes. But I also tell her what could happen if she doesn't make a man wear a rubber each and every single time. Whether she's on b/c or not, the man always wears one. My DH is open with her too. He takes the more "You have a lot to lose if you fuck up and get pregnant as a teen, etc." approach.
Sex does not always hurt the first time.... It didn't hurt at all (I was a little uncomfortable afterwards that was all) and I never bled once. I know other woman who were like that too so I know it just wasn't me.
Quoting Sarlinda:I had "the talk" with my dd and it went pretty good. I bought a book that really helped too. It's called "The care and keeping of you".
I had this book when I was younger and it was nice to have when I didn't want to ask my mom embarrassing questions. My kids aren't old enough to ask these questions though but I think honest age appropriate answers are best. No point in saying a stork brings babies. When I was in second grade, an older kid at the bus stop spilled the beans :/ of course when I asked my mom in fourth grade (because I thought it was soooo funny), she just straight up told me the truth.
answer every question with the truth but at the childs level. My oldest grand daughter, was reading at the age of three years old. So when she was about seven or eight, I decided she could read the "AMERICAN GIRL book, about her body. She was able to read all about what happens as children go through puberty etc etc, and once in a while she'd ask a question. We'd answer to her understanding ability.
I might be alone and be a giant pain in the butt for saying this, but why do the stick figures in the picture for this post have frowns? A (frowning) stick figure man plus a (frowning) stick figure woman equals (frowning) stick figure children? Yeah, I would think that this kind of talk would be bad. If you have negative connotations.... like REALLY negative, then your kid could be screwed up as far as sex goes. Pick some more appropriate images to headline the discussions, please.
Quoting Anonymous:
Shoot, it hurt me! I cried! And I bled like a period! It was so awful and I was sooooo scared to do it again. But it was fine after that first time.
Quoting llheet8586:
Quoting Armadillo79:
I am very open with my 13 yr old. She's allowed to ask me anything she wants, so she is not embarassed. She asked me the other day if it hurts the first time you have sex. You bet your ass it does. It is not roses and you bleed and it will make you not want to have sex anymore. I have told her to be honest with me. I was always told "DONT HAVE SEX". Well guess what? I am going to. And I did. And I was dumb and didn't know what ovulation was, how EASY it was to get pregnant, was too scared to ask for birth control, etc. I do not want that for my daughter. Do I tell her my hopes that she wont until she's old enough? Yes. But I also tell her what could happen if she doesn't make a man wear a rubber each and every single time. Whether she's on b/c or not, the man always wears one. My DH is open with her too. He takes the more "You have a lot to lose if you fuck up and get pregnant as a teen, etc." approach.
Sex does not always hurt the first time.... It didn't hurt at all (I was a little uncomfortable afterwards that was all) and I never bled once. I know other woman who were like that too so I know it just wasn't me.
My kids are four and seven and they know that they came from inside me since my son had asked if I had pushed him out (he was watching some kind of nature show) and I answered No I had to be cut. I then had to explain that I had a Csection for both my kids. We have told them that daddy put them in mommy but how we did not tell them since I don't think they are old enough to understand that yet. My son had classmates in kindergarten who knew how babies were made and I thought that was way too early to be telling them about sex. .
What does dd mean? Terms are used on here that I do not know. Some one can figure out, but dd??? Divorced dad comes to mind, but why use this anogram?
I think my husband's a sociopath
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on Jul. 19, 2012 at 11:26 AM