My sil doesnt' have kids. We have 3 and pregnant with number 4. She is great with our kids but she doesn't listen to me when I say that my kids aren't going to like something. She likes to push my kids to do things just because she wants them to do it. She doesn't listen to them. I encourage my kids to try new things, but I do not push.
Every year, the first weekend of August, there is a county fair in my dh hometown. My inlaws are pretty much head of it all. My sil is very much of a sentimentalist and because this fair was very important to her growing up, then it needs to be important to my kids. I understand her wanting to share her excitement and how fun the fair is but she pushes my kids to join in on so much when they don't want to.
For example: There is a talent show. This year, she is deteremined that my oldest, 6 1/2 yrs, is going to get on that stage in front of many people and sing a song. I know my ds. Hes not going to want to do it and he will get very upset if he is pushed. I hate seeing my ds upset because someone pushed him to do something. Not fair to him.
There is also a kiddy pedal tractor pull. Kids ride a pedal tractor and pull a sled with weights. My inlaws always want my oldest to pedal the tractor but he knows there are lots of people watching and he refuses. They get upset with him. I can't change him.
One of these days she is going to have to understand you can't push my kids.