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My neighbor thinks she can control the school just because her child has allergies

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So my neighbor moved in just as school ended. We are friendly, we talk when we see each other out. We just found out that our kids (her son, my DD) will be in the same class this year. She saw me walking up my driveway with lots of bags full of school supplies. She said "oh getting ready for school"? DD said "yep, mommy got lots of peanut butter". My DD eats sandwiches at school and the only sandwiches she will eat are peanut butter (peanut butter and jelly, peanut butter and fluff, peanut butter and bananas)during the summer, she has lot lunches. Well the neighbor said "I should tell you that your DD won't be allowed to eat peanut butter at school because Jake (her son) has an allergy, I have already called the school and told them that no one can eat peanut butter around my son". Now I know that the school doesn't ban foods because of allergies but I just let it go. I called the school to make sure that they wouldn't be banning it and the secretary said that they will not be. Next time I saw my neighbor, I let her know what I was told and she said "well I will be sending a letter to every parent in the class saying that if they send peanut butter with their kid and her kid somehow gets it, she will sue". It took everything I had not to laugh at her
Posted by Anonymous on Jul. 20, 2012 at 1:05 PM
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by on Jul. 21, 2012 at 8:42 AM
Wow that woman is ridiculous
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by on Jul. 21, 2012 at 8:47 AM

Mother nature has a neat way of eliminating the weak and foolish. We can keep her at bay by teaching the child to be careful about what they eat, or mother nature will find a way to do her work.

by on Jul. 21, 2012 at 9:02 AM

Super mommy should get special permission for her child to go home at lunch time.  Lots of schools are just fine with that solution.  Then her precious snowflake can be peanut free until he grows out of his allergy.

by on Jul. 21, 2012 at 9:11 AM

At our preschool (private), only loose nuts are banned... pb is still accepted though the few who are allergic are not allowed to sit with those who have it.  If her son's allergy is so severe that he can't even be in a room with a peanut then he should be home-schooled.  And this comes from a mom of a food allergy kid!  After all, in the grown-up world (like the workplace for example) just because you have special needs doesn't mean that anyone else cares or will follow rules that YOU impose (not the place of employment or anywhere else).  The world doesn't revolve around them, so they need to learn how to function in the world.  If her son is school aged, he's old enough to know how serious his allergy is and how to avoid foods that have it.  My 2.5 yr old son is just about there, and his 5 yr old brother looks out for him probably more than I do, so I imagine that her son can do it as well.

by on Jul. 21, 2012 at 9:17 AM

Well here the schools and day cares are peanut free zones if even one child is allergic to them. It is very dangerous to those children and could kill them instantly if the allergy is severe enough. I do think that they need to train their children to stay away from it but I also think that people need to be considerate to the safety of her child. Sometimes just sitting at a table that has had peanuts on or around it will be enough to hurt a child with a server allergy. 

by Anonymous 61 on Jul. 21, 2012 at 9:51 AM
I think all mothers should eat more foods made with peanuts while they are pregnant and give thrir kids peanut butter at 1yo instead of waiting. Get it in your kids systems so they won't be allergic. That's how all of these allergies accelerated because all the docs said to wait. Guess what, the longer you wait, the worse off they are.

Problem solved. :)
by Member on Jul. 21, 2012 at 10:13 AM

I understand how life threatening a peanut allergy is but schools need to do what my kids school does. The school still allows peanut butter in the school but the kids that bring inn anything made with peanut butter can not be in the classroom where the kid is while eating lunch and must make sure that they get all the peanut butter off. Unfortunately there are more and more kids coming down with life afflicting allergies that we need to teach our child to be more aware of this.

by on Jul. 21, 2012 at 10:16 AM
This exactly. I am so sick of the posts about food allergies. I people wo teach their kids not to handle stuff they are allergic to life would be easier for all.

Quoting wkukid:

People need to train the kid to stay away from it, not change everyone else, that's ridiculous.

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by on Jul. 21, 2012 at 10:16 AM

its not her kids fault the neighbors kid is allergic and NEW to the school.  why should she change her habits because of some NEW kid?  neighbor needs to teach her kid to stay away from the very things that make him allergic. 

Quoting allycally:

I HATE when school starts all of these post make me nuts.....Get over it.... teach ur daughter to eat other things or keep her home if she has food aversion that bad....

by on Jul. 21, 2012 at 10:29 AM


Quoting Misery_Stitches:

So let's see here
your kid gets peanut butter and is happy, her son could get seriously sick or even worse - die!
your kid has something other than peanut butter, may have a tanty but will get over it and her son will be safe.
Yeah... selfish!... and I'm not talking about the other parent there!

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