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i dont know what to do. EDIT

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I'm not a troll I would just prefer to stay anon on this

I've been with my dh 3 years. We have a 4month old together. When I first found out I was pregnant with him we were separated at the time. During the separation he was sleeping with someone and I was talking to someone. Well we decided to reconcile and drop the other relationships we had. Since then things just haven't been the same. He seems very very distant. He very seldom pays attention to me unless he wants sex. Even sex has been different. He ised to want to have sex all the time and now he just doesn't seem to want sex at all. It even seems as if he picks fights with me just to scream at me at times. He last big argument we had he was screaming in my face saying he never wanted kids with me and he should have divorced me when we were separated. He told me he would rather be having sex with her and that I should go back to the guy I was talking to. He just was down right mean. When I reached for the phone he shoved me and grabbed my phone and threw it. He ran out to the car and took the keys. He locked the carseat in his truck so I had no way to take the baby in a car. He smashed the lamp in our bedroom as well. I live in the middle of no where so there was no way to call anyone to leave. After I got the back door open to call my dog in (sues very protective of me) he changed in the matter of a moment. I think its because she's bit him before when he jumped in my face and raised his hand to me. There's no shelters up here and my family won't met me stay with them with the kids. I feel so stuck. I don't have a job because I have a disability (physical) and could never make it on what they give me. Not to mention my checks are direct deposit into his checking and I don't have access to it otherwise I would just start saving to try and do something. I just don't know what to do.

well so far I've got of set up with a friend about 2hrs away that the next long day he works she's coming with a u haul and were grabbing what we can and getting the hell out of dodge. Her dad has a rental cabin he's going to let me stay in until I can get on my feet. So I just have to wait till next Saturday and just act like everythings ok until then. Plus this way I also get to keep my dog who's my protection in the first place. I'll have all of my mail going to my aunts and my moms taking me Monday to get my checks fixed as well. Thanks to everyone
Posted by Anonymous on Jul. 21, 2012 at 8:31 AM
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by Anonymous 4 on Jul. 21, 2012 at 10:16 AM

For him to feel that way, he sure doesn't want you leaving. My guess is he likes having control over you? When he is gone call and get out.

by on Jul. 21, 2012 at 10:24 AM

First, talk to whoever cuts your checks and have them deposited to an account only in your name.

Second, it sounds like he's pissed off that he now has responsibilities and blames you for it.

Third, go to this site and find your area. A friend of mine was chased from her home with her children by an abusive husband with a shotgun, and this is where she found help.

Last, he sounds like a really messed up, selfish man. Don't blame yourself for any of this - it's all him. He's the one who obviously has problems and needs to do some serious growing up.

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