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I'm not a troll I would just prefer to stay anon on this

I've been with my dh 3 years. We have a 4month old together. When I first found out I was pregnant with him we were separated at the time. During the separation he was sleeping with someone and I was talking to someone. Well we decided to reconcile and drop the other relationships we had. Since then things just haven't been the same. He seems very very distant. He very seldom pays attention to me unless he wants sex. Even sex has been different. He ised to want to have sex all the time and now he just doesn't seem to want sex at all. It even seems as if he picks fights with me just to scream at me at times. He last big argument we had he was screaming in my face saying he never wanted kids with me and he should have divorced me when we were separated. He told me he would rather be having sex with her and that I should go back to the guy I was talking to. He just was down right mean. When I reached for the phone he shoved me and grabbed my phone and threw it. He ran out to the car and took the keys. He locked the carseat in his truck so I had no way to take the baby in a car. He smashed the lamp in our bedroom as well. I live in the middle of no where so there was no way to call anyone to leave. After I got the back door open to call my dog in (sues very protective of me) he changed in the matter of a moment. I think its because she's bit him before when he jumped in my face and raised his hand to me. There's no shelters up here and my family won't met me stay with them with the kids. I feel so stuck. I don't have a job because I have a disability (physical) and could never make it on what they give me. Not to mention my checks are direct deposit into his checking and I don't have access to it otherwise I would just start saving to try and do something. I just don't know what to do.



well so far I've got of set up with a friend about 2hrs away that the next long day he works she's coming with a u haul and were grabbing what we can and getting the hell out of dodge. Her dad has a rental cabin he's going to let me stay in until I can get on my feet. So I just have to wait till next Saturday and just act like everythings ok until then. Plus this way I also get to keep my dog who's my protection in the first place. I'll have all of my mail going to my aunts and my moms taking me Monday to get my checks fixed as well. Thanks to everyone
Posted by Anonymous on Jul. 21, 2012 at 8:31 AM
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icecoldcoffee
by on Jul. 21, 2012 at 9:30 AM
Oh, I've only read one book from stephen king. I'm not into his type of books.


Quoting honeyrder:

It's a quote and situation from a Steven King book.

Quoting icecoldcoffee:

Sorry, don't know who she is.





Quoting honeyrder:

It worked for Delores Claiborne. I guess some of y'all don't read.

Quoting icecoldcoffee:

Do not do that! Worst advice ever!





Call the police for a referra. These shelters are generally very low key, so you may not know about them.








Quoting honeyrder:

An accident can be an unhappy woman's best friend...

You have the internet. Look up how to disable the brakes on his car.

AND open a Bank of America checking account online and get your disability check changed to that account.









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orrwhat87
by on Jul. 21, 2012 at 9:35 AM
What state are you in?
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GirlWSlingshot
by on Jul. 21, 2012 at 9:35 AM
Call 211 and ask about resources. Good luck honey. Life doesn't have to be that scary.
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Babujai
by Gold Member on Jul. 21, 2012 at 9:36 AM
DO call the police and see if they can get you somewhere safe.

DO check the marital property laws for your state. You may not have any right to the house in some states.

DO NOT change where your disability check gets deposited until you and your kids are somewhere safe. Don't tip him off.
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Jul. 21, 2012 at 9:38 AM
i think you need to do something about your checks getting direct deposit first. when you can get that stopped or however it works open up an account in just your name that will help you save money.
honeyrder
by Platinum Member on Jul. 21, 2012 at 9:38 AM

It was made into a movie even. I say the accident thing all of the time, though. Habit...it so tickled me when I first came across it.

Quoting icecoldcoffee:

Oh, I've only read one book from stephen king. I'm not into his type of books.


Quoting honeyrder:

It's a quote and situation from a Steven King book.

Quoting icecoldcoffee:

Sorry, don't know who she is.





Quoting honeyrder:

It worked for Delores Claiborne. I guess some of y'all don't read.

Quoting icecoldcoffee:

Do not do that! Worst advice ever!





Call the police for a referra. These shelters are generally very low key, so you may not know about them.








Quoting honeyrder:

An accident can be an unhappy woman's best friend...

You have the internet. Look up how to disable the brakes on his car.

AND open a Bank of America checking account online and get your disability check changed to that account.










Anonymous
by Anonymous 3 on Jul. 21, 2012 at 9:40 AM
she said the checks go to his account and she doesnt have access to it. if she cant get money then its going to be hard for her to do anything.


Quoting Babujai:

DO call the police and see if they can get you somewhere safe.



DO check the marital property laws for your state. You may not have any right to the house in some states.



DO NOT change where your disability check gets deposited until you and your kids are somewhere safe. Don't tip him off.

icecoldcoffee
by on Jul. 21, 2012 at 9:44 AM
Hmmmm, what's the movie called?


Quoting honeyrder:

It was made into a movie even. I say the accident thing all of the time, though. Habit...it so tickled me when I first came across it.

Quoting icecoldcoffee:

Oh, I've only read one book from stephen king. I'm not into his type of books.





Quoting honeyrder:

It's a quote and situation from a Steven King book.

Quoting icecoldcoffee:

Sorry, don't know who she is.








Quoting honeyrder:

It worked for Delores Claiborne. I guess some of y'all don't read.

Quoting icecoldcoffee:

Do not do that! Worst advice ever!







Call the police for a referra. These shelters are generally very low key, so you may not know about them.











Quoting honeyrder:

An accident can be an unhappy woman's best friend...

You have the internet. Look up how to disable the brakes on his car.

AND open a Bank of America checking account online and get your disability check changed to that account.














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Babujai
by Gold Member on Jul. 21, 2012 at 9:47 AM
She doesn't need money to call the police. She already has internet access to check her property rights...or she can tell us her state and I'll let her know. As far as the disability checks...one she's safe she just has to call the issuing agency and have them change the deposit account.

I left my abuser with a bag full of clothes and on foot. There are resources to help.


Quoting Anonymous:

she said the checks go to his account and she doesnt have access to it. if she cant get money then its going to be hard for her to do anything.




Quoting Babujai:

DO call the police and see if they can get you somewhere safe.





DO check the marital property laws for your state. You may not have any right to the house in some states.





DO NOT change where your disability check gets deposited until you and your kids are somewhere safe. Don't tip him off.

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honeyrder
by Platinum Member on Jul. 21, 2012 at 9:51 AM

Delores Claiborne

Quoting icecoldcoffee:

Hmmmm, what's the movie called?


Quoting honeyrder:

It was made into a movie even. I say the accident thing all of the time, though. Habit...it so tickled me when I first came across it.

Quoting icecoldcoffee:

Oh, I've only read one book from stephen king. I'm not into his type of books.





Quoting honeyrder:

It's a quote and situation from a Steven King book.

Quoting icecoldcoffee:

Sorry, don't know who she is.








Quoting honeyrder:

It worked for Delores Claiborne. I guess some of y'all don't read.

Quoting icecoldcoffee:

Do not do that! Worst advice ever!







Call the police for a referra. These shelters are generally very low key, so you may not know about them.











Quoting honeyrder:

An accident can be an unhappy woman's best friend...

You have the internet. Look up how to disable the brakes on his car.

AND open a Bank of America checking account online and get your disability check changed to that account.















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