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i resent my SO

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I think that is really the peoblem it's that and the lack of comunication...but I've always known about the comunication. We have been together over 6 years and I love him. He was in college when I got pregnant. I was 19 when I had our first. he stayed in school and I moved in with his mother. he was over an hour away and only came once a week to every other week. I stayed with his mom for 3 months until my sister and I got a house together. our daughter was about 3 months old and we had just broken up. we stayed broken up until she was around 1. and that time I was a single mom he never took her out of the house he would just come over and hang out. He always give me money during this time But he could have been around a lot more. we got back together and he was better he is always given me money and continue to even though we were still together. since my daughter was 4 months old I had 2 jobs. he had 1 job and was still in college full time. but on the weekends when he could of been down he would choose to do other things like go longboarding. we had been doing well for 6 months so I chose to move closer to him but we still did not live together. he slept over my house 2 to 3 a week but was there almost everyday. I had gotten pregnant right before I moved. our daughter was 23 month old when our son was born. he went on a long boarding trip the weekend my son was born. I stay living close to him for a year But the area was very bad. I moved back an hour away from him. he was around more than the first time 1 or 2 days during the week and on weekends. the job that I have from home was under the table so when my boss didn't need me anymore I had to get on food stamps. that lead to almost all forms of public assistance. I took a class in computers to try to further my education to get a better job but I couldn't find 1 so I took a job cleaning rooms in a hotel. I still get help with my rent and 140 dollars in food stamps. now he is done with school and wants to move in he does not have a good job yet and barely makes 150 a week after child support. I don't think I can get over the fact that he wasn't there when our kids were infants. I resent him for not being there for us not being a family and living together. Idk how to get past this...

Anyone have any ideas?

He has always been a good dad (not the best when dd was little but GREAT now). When he comes down he does the dishes and garbage and helps with everything. Helps buy things for my house he doesn't have the money for (like toilet paper and paper towels). He spends all day Tuesday with the kids and all day Sunday almost every day he has off he is here (sometimes he stays up there to pack or he has a half day and doesn't have the gas money) so some times he gets more then just 2 days a week here.
Posted by Anonymous on Jul. 21, 2012 at 9:10 AM
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by Bronze Member on Jul. 21, 2012 at 9:48 AM

Sometimes men need to grow up. My husband wasn't much help the first 2 years of our kids lives. It took time for it to really kick in and now he's an amazing father and husband.

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