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I really hate judgmental b****es

Posted by Anonymous   + Show Post

There is this girl I go to school with and one of my teachers posted this on her facebook page. the teacher is talking about the shooting in colorado. *her* will be the girl i'm talking about then *me* will be me lol


Teacher: People really need to stop judging others sooo much. No one is perfect and everyone has their faults!!! It is in NO way the parents fault for what that bastard did to those families!!! He is to blame!!

Her: I wasn't blaming the parents was just saying it was a shame.... But yes I think a 6 year old and a 3 month old should not have been at a MIDNIGHT screening.

Teacher: I don't think its that big a deal, honestly. Other people have other ideas about parenting. I wouldn't neccessarily take kids that young either but not my place...

Me: People parent in different ways. What's wrong with kids going to a midnight screening? I used to go to the drive in with my parents when I was little. I take my kids to the drive in as well.

Her: Kids should be set on normal schedule,taking a kid to a showing that late at night throws them off, and thats not healthy ( just going off what all the doctors say ) For a 3 month old its insanly loud and thats why they cry and scream, its even too loud for most adults let alone a baby.....Yes I think 6 years olds should not be out at a showing that late at night, now if they were 10 maybe 11 I would think thats normal.

Me: But one night isn't going to throw a kids schedule off or ruin them. My 4 year olds love Batman. I don't think I'm a bad parent because I let them watch it.

Her: Taking them at midnight? and yeah it does throw them off, because then they sleep in way past normal time, then that throws off thier eating schedule, and nap time and then they dont really want to go to bed on time that night. I know there are different parenting types, but doesnt mean they are right. Like giving a 2 year old a sippy cup full of Mt.Dew 3 times a day is NOT a good parent. I know there isnt a maual but most things are common sense on raising a child.

Me: I think as long as a kid is getting fed and not being neglected then you are doing a good job as a parent. Not everyone can afford the very best for their kids. Not every parent is super strict with their kids. Yes I let my kids stay up late and let them drink soda and eat candy. I don't think it makes me a bad parent. My kids are fed, loved, and not neglected. As long as you are not beating your kids, starving them, or neglecting them then that is an okay parent.

Her: My son has a sprite maybe once a month and a few pieces of candy a week, I am by no means a strict parent but I'm not letting him run around like a whild animal either. If those are the standards of being a good parent then I am sad for how little someone how to do to be thought of as a good parent.

Me: Just because a parent gives their kids candy or soda does not mean they act like a wild child. I by no means condole that kind of behavior from my children. I don't give my kids candy and soda everyday. I had weight problems and do not want them to have those same problems. But people's standards are different. Doesn't make one parent better then another. I don't judge what someone does with their kids as along as they are not being beaten. I get that some people can't afford the best for their kids but do what is in their means to raise their kids how they see fit. 


This guy that came and shot up the movies didn't do it because he was fed candy or soda or stayed up late as a kid. There could be 100 different reasons. 

We can just agree to disagree on how we each parent. I'll continue raising my kids how I see fit to raise them. They are loved and well cared for. No I can't afford to feed my kids the very best organic food but they are fed healthy. I'll also continue to give them a soda and candy once in awhile (it's not every day). I'll let them stay up late and watch movies with me because sometimes that is the only time I have with my kids.

Her: I understand not everyone can afford the best for their kids, but then again that is not my fault. No matter what his reasons he still shouldnt have done it, Physical abuse isnt the only kind of abuse and there are many kind of neglect. You keep raising all of your children the way you see fit, and lets see how that works out for you.

Me: No one ever said it was your fault. 


Oh and can I barrow your perfect parenting 101 book since you have all the right answers...

Her: haha its called reading parenting books and common sense, I didnt say I was the perfect parent, I am learning new things everyday, and things are trials some work and others dont, but I make it a point to educate myself to give my child the best advantages in life...You should look into that :)

Me: I don't need to look into it. I am raising my kids the way I see fit to raise them. I don't need a book to tell me What is right and wrong. I know I'm a good mom and it doesn't matter what someone who doesn't know my life say. You have never walked in my shoes. You have never met my kids. I don't say you are wrong for how you raise your kid. I don't judge you for limiting your kid soda or candy or having a set schedule for him. It's none of my business. It's how you parent and as long as you love your kid and he's not being abused its no ones business how you raise him. Just like it's no ones business how I raise mine. So I don't think you should judge a parent for letting their kid stay up late. One night ever few months isn't going to turn a kid into a murder.

Me: oh and I'm done with this topic. Out of respect for Robin.

Her: Haha ok. I don't know what else to say because nothing will get through to you. And just because you are a mom doesn't mean you are qualified to be one:)


I didn't reply back after that. This girl is the most judgmental person I know. She will judge you for the type of shoes you wear or if your hair is a little greasy one day. I just got so irritated for her telling me that I am a bad parent because I let my kids have candy or soda. 

Sorry this was so long.

Posted by Anonymous on Jul. 21, 2012 at 10:28 PM
Replies (61-68):
Candymonster
by on Jul. 22, 2012 at 6:52 AM
I was raised literally on salts and sugars...I'm overweight (not by much, mainly just because of preggo belly) and I wasn't bouncing off the walls hyper. However, I did inquire a "wonderful" crazy addiction to caffiene from all the soda that I'm painfully trying to break. I don't see myself as abused by bad food choices though.
Anonymous
by Anonymous on Jul. 22, 2012 at 6:53 AM
Yet you took the time to comment.. Yep you make perfect sense...

Quoting Anonymous:

What a waste of reading time that was for me.

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Jul. 22, 2012 at 6:55 AM

Well, at least you spelled judgmental correctly - that's more than many do. 

Kmary
by Bronze Member on Jul. 22, 2012 at 6:59 AM

Ha!  Yes, I noticed that, too.  Pretty sure the teacher was the brightest one in that little facebook conversation...

Joking aside, OP, sure you're right.  That "friend" is a bit judgmental and obviously likes the last word.  But I'd also add that you really kind of gave her attention and fueled her fire.  These days when I see something somewhat "controversial" on fb, I run away fast. 

Quoting she_walk_softly:

I like how the teacher disappeared when it started going south.


PerfectVirgo
by on Jul. 22, 2012 at 9:11 AM

Sorry. i thought this was a forun, where people put comments on other's stories. Kind of like what you did there, commenting on my comment, even though I wasn't talking to you, or about you.  -__-

Quoting Anonymous:

How the FUCK is being friends with her teacher creepy?! And if you have READ the post the TEACHER wasn't the bitch (I seen your other comment so adding my reply to that one here)
Is this moron day or something? People on here sure are showing how stupid they are lol

Quoting PerfectVirgo:

you should not be friends with your teacher. talk about creepy.


PerfectVirgo
by on Jul. 22, 2012 at 9:12 AM

Yea, I can understand that. That girl was being super mean for no reason. Like someone said earlier, she's probably just miserable.

Misery loves company. Don't let her get ya.

Quoting Anonymous:

Trust me I am. I just got pissed after she went off on my parenting skills. I told the teacher sorry and she said no problem. She is a great teacher and wouldn't hold that against me. It was still embarrassing though because she has other teachers on there that aren't as "cool".

Quoting PerfectVirgo:

idk. i'd be embarassed to have had that argument on my teacher's facebook post....

Quoting Anonymous:

Why this is collage, not high school. She keeps her students up to date on things we need for class.

Quoting PerfectVirgo:

you should not be friends with your teacher. talk about creepy.





Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Jul. 22, 2012 at 4:14 PM

The teacer did end up coming back and defending me. Even a few ther students came back to my defence. This was the teachers responce.


I think its funny how the conversation started...people have a right to their opinions, if you don't want me or others to comment on them maybe you shouldn't subject us all to yours??? Kristine is a wonderful mom, don't question what you know in your heart to be right!! Kids are a challenge, we all learn as we go...just love them as much as you can and hope like Hell that they always know you do!!!

Quoting Kmary:

Ha!  Yes, I noticed that, too.  Pretty sure the teacher was the brightest one in that little facebook conversation...

Joking aside, OP, sure you're right.  That "friend" is a bit judgmental and obviously likes the last word.  But I'd also add that you really kind of gave her attention and fueled her fire.  These days when I see something somewhat "controversial" on fb, I run away fast. 

Quoting she_walk_softly:

I like how the teacher disappeared when it started going south.



Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Jul. 22, 2012 at 4:18 PM

I'm sure she is. She is a single mom and can't get a date. She isn't ugly by no means just a little on the bigger side. She is also  (ex?) milatary so probably scares guys away.

I later posted this:

I have to agree Brandy, that's why I backed out when I did. I was acting like a immature teenager in high school. I honestly embarrassed myself.

Brandy said something about the post going south and that was my responce.

*her* liked that comment. I wanted to punch her lol

Quoting PerfectVirgo:

Yea, I can understand that. That girl was being super mean for no reason. Like someone said earlier, she's probably just miserable.

Misery loves company. Don't let her get ya.

Quoting Anonymous:

Trust me I am. I just got pissed after she went off on my parenting skills. I told the teacher sorry and she said no problem. She is a great teacher and wouldn't hold that against me. It was still embarrassing though because she has other teachers on there that aren't as "cool".

Quoting PerfectVirgo:

idk. i'd be embarassed to have had that argument on my teacher's facebook post....

Quoting Anonymous:

Why this is collage, not high school. She keeps her students up to date on things we need for class.

Quoting PerfectVirgo:

you should not be friends with your teacher. talk about creepy.






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