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I hope my kids have sex before marriage.

Posted by Anonymous   + Show Post
I really think it's cute when people save themselves for marriage, but unrealistic.
I believe that sexual compatibility is important in a well oiled functioning adult relationship.
If my kids wait until marriage and discover no joy with their mate in the bedroom, what then?
Resentment?
Divorce?
Unhappiness?
Sure, sex is not everything, but it is the building block of families. I want my babies to be happy and well loved and to have babies of their own.
I will let my children make their own choices regarding when to have sexual relations.
I will advise waiting for a committed relationship, and for love.
I will advise waiting until after high school graduation.
I will enforce safe sex by providing the necessary tools and knowledge.
My son will be taught to respect his mate and use protection in addition to discussing birth control with her.
My daughter will be taught to responsibly use birth control in addition to having her partner use condoms.

Do you think I'm a bad mother for wanting my children to have sex before marriage? What values are you teaching your children about sex?
Posted by Anonymous on Jul. 22, 2012 at 7:36 AM
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 4 on Jul. 22, 2012 at 7:49 AM
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Just because you're not actually sexually active does not mean your head is in the sand and you are completely unaware. They may not know everything that they'll like or not like but should have an idea of what they are interested in trying. Once they are married they can try out those things and discover others and determine what they really do and don't like.

Quoting smurfbitebug:

It seems a little laughable to me that they would even know what they are talking about if they haven't ever had sex before. But OK.



Quoting Anonymous:

Same here. As to sexual compatibility, I believe they should discuss with their betrothed prior to marriage what they are interested in and ok with. Once they are married, they will grow together in their sexuality (dh and I did and it made our bond that much better).





Quoting Joels-My-Love:

I am teaching them modesty nd self purity and to wait until after marriage
Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Jul. 22, 2012 at 7:50 AM
How would they know what they like and are okay with if they are virgins?


Quoting Anonymous:

Same here. As to sexual compatibility, I believe they should discuss with their betrothed prior to marriage what they are interested in and ok with. Once they are married, they will grow together in their sexuality (dh and I did and it made our bond that much better).



Quoting Joels-My-Love:

I am teaching them modesty nd self purity and to wait until after marriage

myboysRmyhero
by on Jul. 22, 2012 at 7:51 AM
I couldnt have said it better! The waay you think is how me and my husband feel!
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 5 on Jul. 22, 2012 at 7:51 AM
I really don't get this arguement. DH and I dated for three years prior to marriage. We both waited. However, we did do everything but. I figure I got a man very skilled at the art of foreplay. I knew we were compatible when he kissed me. We've been married 12 years and still have a very active sex life.
Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Jul. 22, 2012 at 7:53 AM
That is true, and I did say sex isn't everything. Do you think that bring sexually incompatible at the beginning of a marriage would cause problems? Unhappiness, stress etc. What if their issues cannot be fixed, then what?


Quoting Joels-My-Love:

No. Sex doesnt not equal love. Sexual incompatibility can always be worked on.



Quoting Anonymous:

You don't worry about sexual incompatibility?






Quoting Joels-My-Love:

I am teaching them modesty nd self purity and to wait until after marriage


Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Jul. 22, 2012 at 7:56 AM
I've never met anyone who saved themselves for marriage. I think it's realistic if it's what THEY want, but for me to expect that, isn't even fair. Congratulations on finding your soul mate!! I too have been blessed with mine :-)


Quoting grouchymama:

I don't think it is unrealistic to teach them that they should wait until after marriage. Lots of people wait. I didn't wait until marriage but I did wait until I met my DH. I was 35 when we met. At 35 I knew he was my soul mate and  decided I had waited long enough. LOL Even my parents told me "Getting knocked up at this point would be a good thing." Thanks mom:)


AHmom103
by Gold Member on Jul. 22, 2012 at 7:56 AM

 To be perfectly honest, I hope they wait. HOWEVER, I do not expect that they will. I will teach them to protect themselves whenever they decide to have sex, but I will be teaching abstinence right along with it.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 6 on Jul. 22, 2012 at 7:56 AM
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It creeps me out when moms are as interested in their kids' sex lives like you are and I bet your kids are still in diapers. Get help.


Quoting Anonymous:

I really think it's cute when people save themselves for marriage, but unrealistic.

I believe that sexual compatibility is important in a well oiled functioning adult relationship.

If my kids wait until marriage and discover no joy with their mate in the bedroom, what then?

Resentment?

Divorce?

Unhappiness?

Sure, sex is not everything, but it is the building block of families. I want my babies to be happy and well loved and to have babies of their own.

I will let my children make their own choices regarding when to have sexual relations.

I will advise waiting for a committed relationship, and for love.

I will advise waiting until after high school graduation.

I will enforce safe sex by providing the necessary tools and knowledge.

My son will be taught to respect his mate and use protection in addition to discussing birth control with her.

My daughter will be taught to responsibly use birth control in addition to having her partner use condoms.



Do you think I'm a bad mother for wanting my children to have sex before marriage? What values are you teaching your children about sex?

Anonymous
by Anonymous 7 on Jul. 22, 2012 at 7:56 AM
I'm teaching my kids to wait. But after the porn they came across on my nephew's iPhone earlier this week, I don't know if they'll ever have sex because it scared them so bad.
Diva-Mami
by Silver Member on Jul. 22, 2012 at 7:57 AM
How could they judge something they never had? How can they have never had sex and wind up unhappy? Happiness is what you make it. If you do noting then you will get nothing from it. I dont think its realistic for people to wait although its ideal.
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