My cousin is marrying my best friend's ex-fiance. Long story short, she used to be best friends with my friend as well, but stomped all over their friendship as soon as she found out our friend broke off the engagement (he was unwilling to move an hour away for her).
My cousin asked this friend if it was okay if she went out with her ex-fiance- friend said "No" but my cousin didn't listen and blah blah history, they're not friends anymore.
I should add that this guy dated a whole circle of my cousin's friends- including me a long time ago- before he decided to date her. He called her "obsessive" and "pathetic", to name a few things.
I don't agree with their marriage(unless it's just to spite themselves, because they're both egotistical) and my cousin was pissed last summer because I said I didn't support her marriage, mainly because my cousin really hurt my friend (despite what some people say, family comes first, this isn't how it is with me and my cousin). She was pissed off and she and her fiance said I wasn't invited to the wedding.
Fast forward a year to this past Friday. My mom called to ask if I got an invitation. I told her I hadn't. My mom got one that says, "Aunt, Uncle, and Sons". So she was wondering if I had gotten one. My mom knows the whole story and thought it was rude to not send me one but I told her I really didn't care. We started joking around about it, and she said, "Well, if you and your SO decide to get married, you know what to do then..." And I said, as a smart ass, "Yep, send [them] an invitation to make them feel like assholes." My mom and I laughed about it.
I thought it was funny and posted (without using names) the conversation on Facebook. Most of my friends know what my cousin did and I had "lols" and "Likes" all around but someone decided to take it offensively and lectured me about "family being important" and my post being "immature" and that I shouldn't talk shit about other people on Facebook. My cousin, whom I hadn't talked to in almost a year, texted me out of nowhere saying I was "talking badly" about her.
So, was I talking shit about her by saying I'll send her an invitation to make her and her new husband feel like assholes?
Actual post from Facebook:
Mom: So, did you get a wedding invitation from "so and so"?
Mom: Well, then we're not going, it only says "Aunt, Uncle, and Sons".
Me: I don't care if you go.
Mom: If you and [SO's name] ever decide to, ya know...get married, you know what to do.
Me: Yep, send "so and so" an invitation to my wedding so they feel like an asshole.
I personally, don't feel like I was shit talking, mainly because I didn't actually call them any names. I said so they FEEL like assholes- because that's what they should feel like. I never said they WERE assholes, though.