about disciplining each other's kids. Each of our youngest sons seem to disrespect the step-parents authority.
We realized what we are doing wrong. We have been allowing the bioparent of each child to handle all issues. They get in trouble by their own parent for disrespecting the step-parent. But, that is not giving the step-parent any authority. The kids aren't learning to respect us. They are learning to act respectful for fear of what their own parent may do as punishment. That is way different than actually respecting the step-parent's authority.
So, we outlined between us what is acceptable and not acceptable for each step-parent to use as discipline on the step-kids. The next time we have all of the kids together, we are going to lay out the new rules and of the respect that is expected.
Hopefully, this will improve things. Step-parenting is tough. :(