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Pedophiles?

Anonymous
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I have myself wondering, what do you ladies think of pedophiles? Of course, a natural reaction for anyone is to automatically feel disgust towards them, but what if they can't help it? I got my associates in Psychology, and those classes just got my mind thinking about a lot of things. Gay people for example, can't help who they're attracted to. Everyone protests about how they're born that way and we should accept it. Or for example, men (women too, but I'll go with men for the sake of this post) who are into porn, are into different things. Some are even into weird stuff. Some like threesome porn, some like anal porn, some like bi-racial porn, some like porn that takes place in public places, etc. My point is, everyone is into different things. What about the people who are attracted to children? What if they truly can't HELP it? It has been scientifically proven that some people just are that way, and it's as impossible to control as it is for a gay person to stop themselves from being attracted to the same sex, or for straight people to be attracted to the opposite sex. The law states, that as long as a person doesn't act on it, there is no law stating that a person can't be attracted to children (because it is not something that can be controlled). I feel bad for people who are attracted to children and don't WANT to be, as long as they don't act on it and are good people. There are people who actually go to voluntary counseling to try and fight it and hope to change themselves because they don't WANT to be that way. Some men like big boobs, some men don't. Some men like black women, white women, tall women, short women, women with big butts, etc. Some are attracted to younger girls. I plan to further my education (since I can't do much with just an associates) and become a therapist and I hope to gain insight into why some people are attracted to children and attempt to help them. What are your thoughts on them? Without automatically screaming gross, sick, or whatever, think about it with an open mind.


And let me add quick...I AM IN NO WAY OKAY WITH IT! I just wonder how they are supposed to help it when that is what they are naturally into.


I'M NOT TALKING ABOUT PEOPLE WHO ACT ON IT!!! I'M TALKING ABOUT PEOPLE WHO ARE JUST ATTRACTED TO THEM AND DON'T ACT ON IT!



I did some more research on it, and it says that .5% up to 7% of men have some attraction to children (pre-puberty). They say it's hard to get a clear number of how many men because most men keep it a secret and don't share it with others. They also say that many DON'T act on it. They do have therapy for men who are attracted to children, but the initial attraction is not something a man can control. He can seek counseling though, be put on medications to lower arousal, and can recieve arousal reconditioning therapy. Most men though, just keep it a secret and deal with it from day to day without ever acting on it. They even have porn with legal aged women, and make them look very young, with hair styles like piggy tails and little girl looking bedroom scenes because there are so many men who are into it even though they won't act on it. There may even be women on here who are with men who find young children sexually attractive and don't know it. Scary, but true.
Posted by Anonymous on Jul. 23, 2012 at 9:09 PM
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rvb146
by Gold Member on Jul. 23, 2012 at 9:10 PM
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I'm always disgusted when I see a pedophile or hear about one. But I still want to know why they are the way they are, how their childhood was, what made them start doing what they did, ect.
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Amyinthesky
by on Jul. 23, 2012 at 9:11 PM
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If they can not help it then they belong in a ward. I understand they are sick but I have NO tolerance for people that commit sex crimes especially on children!

Cymbeline
by Platinum Member on Jul. 23, 2012 at 9:11 PM

I feel sorry for pedophiles, because, as you said, I believe it is inherent.

However, I am disgusted by child molesters. If they act upon their desires, which they know are wrong, they become a monster.

Liyahsmommy2006
by Bronze Member on Jul. 23, 2012 at 9:11 PM
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My mother married a pedophile so i havent talked to my mother in years because of that she knew what he was and refused to leave him alone. tells me that everyone needs love. i am sorry but a guy who like to mess with little kids needs to be castered and thrown under the jail!

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jul. 23, 2012 at 9:14 PM

I agree with you 100%. I want to make it very clear that I think any person who acts on it and commits a sex crime on a child should be thrown in person. I'm simply talking about people who DON'T act on it, but live with the attraction for children. I think there are a lot of men out there who hide it and it's a deep, dark secret that they have to hold inside their entire life. I hope to help those people. Talk to them. Give them therapy and hope to learn what the reasons are for why some people are that way.

Quoting Liyahsmommy2006:

My mother married a pedophile so i havent talked to my mother in years because of that she knew what he was and refused to leave him alone. tells me that everyone needs love. i am sorry but a guy who like to mess with little kids needs to be castered and thrown under the jail!


michelleinfl
by Bronze Member on Jul. 23, 2012 at 9:15 PM
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Even IF they can't control who they are attracted to....they definitely can control acting upon that desire.

Liyahsmommy2006
by Bronze Member on Jul. 23, 2012 at 9:15 PM

Yes that is true. but some get help and still commit these sick acts. its sad and very disturbing

Quoting Anonymous:

I agree with you 100%. I want to make it very clear that I think any person who acts on it and commits a sex crime on a child should be thrown in person. I'm simply talking about people who DON'T act on it, but live with the attraction for children. I think there are a lot of men out there who hide it and it's a deep, dark secret that they have to hold inside their entire life. I hope to help those people. Talk to them. Give them therapy and hope to learn what the reasons are for why some people are that way.

Quoting Liyahsmommy2006:

My mother married a pedophile so i havent talked to my mother in years because of that she knew what he was and refused to leave him alone. tells me that everyone needs love. i am sorry but a guy who like to mess with little kids needs to be castered and thrown under the jail!



Anonymous
by Anonymous 2 on Jul. 23, 2012 at 9:16 PM
There is a huge difference between pedophiles and gay people.

If gay people are adults then their brain is developed enough to make adult decisions like sex.

A child's brain is not developed yet so they can't make rational decisions. The body of a child also isn't developed yet. The adult is taking advantage of the child and most likely tramatizing them.
ff-princess
by Ruby Member on Jul. 23, 2012 at 9:17 PM

while I understand that everyone is born with their own "tastes", it is not okay to take advantage of a child who is not mature enough to give consent.  that's the rule society has laid out, and while they can't help the way they feel they CAN and BETTER help whether they act on it.

singlemom1208
by on Jul. 23, 2012 at 9:18 PM
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They may not be able to control their desires, but they can control their actions. And for example, a gay person acts on his/her attraction with an adult, no one is hurt, but a pedophile hurts the child. That's what makes it wrong, an innocent person gets hurt.
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