My husband is an addict- please help
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My DH has been smoking synthetic marijuana for about a year.
He used to smoke pot, but stopped because he thought they were doing random drug testing at work. A friend of his was smoking the fake stuff they sell in stores so he tried it. At first he didn't really like it, but thought it would help him quit and not have to go cold turkey.
This stuff is so much worse than the real stuff. He was never addicted before. With the real stuff it was more like a bad habit he was trying to break. But he seems to need this stuff all the time. Plus, he can always get it because he just buys it at a store. With the real stuff he couldn't always get it so he had to smoke on and off. I've even tried to get him to switch back to the real stuff. But he says he's worried about drug tests even though they've never done them. I think he's just using that as an excuse becuase he's addicted to this stuff.
He wants to quit. It's totaly fucking with his lungs. He has a horrible hacking cough that never really goes away. And it's making him super moody.
He's talked to his regular doctor, and is going to a counselor to try to quit. He finally went to a physiatrist. None of them know anything about it. The psychiatrist said he can't be addicted to it because it's not a drug. He had never even heard of it before.
He got anti anxiety meds that help with the mood swings. But he just can't stop.
What do I do to help him?
I'm not going to leave him. He's a great dad and a good husband with a problem. He doesn't mistreat any of us at all.
That's great that your DH is seeing a counselor. I hope he's able to quit. Hang in there momma.
Quoting Anonymous:
Quoting lovemysnugbugs:
My husband had a bad problem with adderall. He tried to quit many times but just wasn't able to. It took him ending up in the hospital and almost dying (from an unrelated illness) to finally quit for good. It wasn't easy but he hasn't touched it in almost a year and he's doing really well. It can be hard to support someone through that - especially when he says he wants to quit then goes right back to doing it. If you ever need to talk, pm me.thank you
Did he get help to quit, or did he do it on his own.
My DH can't stand the thought of being a in a group. He's going to a counselor and that was a HUGE step for him.
Quoting donsterb:
Really? An addiction my ass!! I hate shit like this I've been helping my DH deal with his addiction for almost 3 yrs now he's a heroin addict... A horrible horrible addiction... I have never once herd of someone being addicted to pot... Tell him to grow the fuck up... Everyone needs to at some point!
thank you
really thank you
He doesn't do it with friends. His friend that introduced him to it isn't local. No one we see regularly even knows he does it. But I agree with your point.
I didn't know about online alanon meetings. I am looking into that right away. thanks
Quoting donsterb:
One thing I can tell you that has helped my DH is if his friends are doing he's going to keep doing it... The ppl around him can influence what he does... Maybe changing friends will help a little... Again I am sorry instead of being a bitch I'll think of something's that might help... Also they do have online alanon meetings... Idk if you guys would be interested in that... One thing my DH was told to do cause we live in a small town where they don't have alanon meetings was to go to AA meetings...
Tell him to try meetings again
she apologise and then gave me some good advice.
but thanks for sticking up for me :)
Quoting Anonymous:
Get the hell out of here!! Your husband is not more important because he picked heroin!! Seems like you're bitter!
Quoting donsterb:
Really? An addiction my ass!! I hate shit like this I've been helping my DH deal with his addiction for almost 3 yrs now he's a heroin addict... A horrible horrible addiction... I have never once herd of someone being addicted to pot... Tell him to grow the fuck up... Everyone needs to at some point!
Quoting Anonymous:
Get the hell out of here!! Your husband is not more important because he picked heroin!! Seems like you're bitter!
Quoting donsterb:
Really? An addiction my ass!! I hate shit like this I've been helping my DH deal with his addiction for almost 3 yrs now he's a heroin addict... A horrible horrible addiction... I have never once herd of someone being addicted to pot... Tell him to grow the fuck up... Everyone needs to at some point!
Quoting kimbotspot:
He should go to NA meetings. That stuff has actually been made illegal here. Tons of clients relapse on that stuff, some have had seizures because of it. Its dangerous.
Tell him to try meetings again
They've made some of it illegal, but apparently the law can't keep up with the manufacturers who change what's in it.
He won't go to meetings. He tried and felt like they didn't want him there becuase it's not a real drug addiction. I doubt that's really how it was, but he didn't want to go so he found a reason not too.
He's super uncomfortable in groups in general.
Quoting donsterb:
Really? There's fucking help for addicts everywhere if he really is addicted to pot then I'm sorry I should hold my tongue (or fingers) sometimes... Seriously though there is help for ppl with addictions everywhere he has to want help first and if he doesn't then hitting rock fucking bottom is his only choice (which is losing everything)
And yes I would say this if he was a drunk well at least the part about growing the fuck up... My DH has heard it many times from me...
To the op I'm sorry I'm coming off as a bitch but like I said I've lived with an addict... My father was an alcoholic... All addicts are selfish ppl that need to grow up and face reality!
Quoting Anonymous:
Quoting donsterb:
Really? An addiction my ass!! I hate shit like this I've been helping my DH deal with his addiction for almost 3 yrs now he's a heroin addict... A horrible horrible addiction... I have never once herd of someone being addicted to pot... Tell him to grow the fuck up... Everyone needs to at some point!thanks
This is exactly why it's so hard for him to get help.
Would you say this is he was a drunk? Did you even read the post?
are you ok with another woman calling your husband "hun" or "babe"