We get medical insurance thru DHs work. Recently we recieved a letter and check in the mail that said since the insurance company didnt spend 80% of the preiums paid in to cover expenses paid out we would get a rebate check. The check is for $550. Thats a house payment for us. Anyway, dh said that since it has his name only on it he would cash it and spend it on himself however he saw fit. That statement upset me because its a significant amount of money that could be put to use for the whole family (bills, school supplies or clothes, etc). It hurts because dh is pretty tight with money when it comes to me and the kids making sure only what is necessary for us is paid for but then he spends hundreds of dollars on unnecessary items for himself. Even income tax refund (which is in both our names) he uses on himself. I just dont think its right. If you were in my shoes, how would you respond?