when is the appropiate age to let my kid to go to sleepover?

[Anonymous]

I am going through divorce for the last year. We have six years old boy that we share every other weekend, but he lives with me during the weekdays. This weekend is his weekend and he sent me a text message telling me that our son was invited to his first sleepover at one of his neighbor's house, which I don't know them. Our son was very excited about it. I told my ex that he is too little to go to sleepover and that he can go to the party, but to pick him up later tonight. He got really upset about it and he said that he should be able to make his own decision when he is at his place. I reminded him that in the divorce papers said that only family members could watch him when we are not around. I told him that I really appreciated that he communicated that to me, but of course he did not care about it. Do you think that I am exaggerating in my opinion regarding sleepovers?

[BambiF]

My 3Year old sleeps at her friends house every few weeks, and he sleeps here too. They share a bed and everything haha.
I think 6 is old enough for a sleepover party. I'm sure the parents will have your exs phone number in case anything goes wrong

[Cheryl_M]

I think 6 is old enough for a sleepover - especially if it's a neighbor that's very near your ex's house. Maybe ask to meet the neighbor's first, and if they seem okay...allow the sleepover and ask to check up and make sure everything is going well?

[Anonymous]

Do you consider your ex's parenting decisions and choices when your son is at your house? 

My son was not ready until he was 8. That was hime. I would not allow it if it was someone I did not know, but if his father knew and trusted them, I would trust that he could make reasonable parenting decision. 

[kitkat202425]

Really don't care what you think of it. We are raising our kids with our values. The end.

Quoting Anonymous:

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't let my 6 year old sleep over with someone whom I've never even met. I think you are right.

[creoletexan]

My son had his friend sleepover and they are both 3.

[Anonymous]

I think 6 yrs is on the cusp of being old enough for a sleepover. Some kids would be perfectly fine for a sleepover, some would not.

The bigger thing for me would be whether I knew the family and felt comfortable with them.

Good luck. Go with your gut, you are his momma! :-)

[HoosierNative]

Well my daughter just had her first sleepover last night...she is 7. I am sure a six yr old can handle a sleepover. I think this is more you trying to dictate what your ex can do on his time. He is his parent too. This is something i have done myself. We want them to see it our way. Cold hard truth is though its not our job to tell dad what he can or cannot do when its HIS time with the kids.

[LeahJ]

It wouldn't bother me one bit. But then, i just sent my 11 year old (he turned 11 a couple of weeks ago) off to a week long camp, incuding one night that he will spend alone, without an adult, in the woods.

[mommy_me]

 In a divorce both parents should have say in this kind of situation. That being said, 6 is way to young in my opinion to for a sleepover