I dont want SEX!! Whats wrong with me

[Anonymous]

I have been with my DH for 5 1/2 yrs we have a son together and I have 2 Boys from previous marriage,which he helps raise. I am ashm,and I'm very very busy daily and stressed out a lot cause the older Boys are teens plus we have a foster child. I'm so tired at night that when he touches me I push him away. Its not like we have the best realionship either,he don't understand I'm not in the mood. Any suggestion on how to go get MY GROOVE BACK. 7/30/12 at 10:30 pm. We had some of the BEST MIND BLOWIN SEX. The toys and props did a lot to get me in the mood. Maybe I found out what the problem was

[susieQ680]

Try yoga it might help u relax and   I now u r busy but try to have some quite time for u self and keep use posted k good luck

[KRIZZ25]

WEL SUMMER IS OUT ..UR STRESSED..MABIE HAVE HUB HELP OUT WTH THE KIDS..OR HAVE THIM WATCH THEM ONE DAY U HAVE A ME DAY ..THAN WEN U GET BACK ASK HIM IF HE,S TIRED..LET HIM SEE LIFE THROW UR EYES.

[kit_manson]

That's like my SO and I, just reversed. I think at one point it had been a couple months and I just broke down crying. He was so confused about why it's such a "big deal". Things are better now though.

To the OP: Try new things. Crazy wild things. Try initiating it yourself. Let your fantasies run wild all day (Even if you have to jumpstart them with porn or erotica) and when he gets home, go for it.

Quoting tnt1014:

I agree.

Sometimes I'm not really in the mood(married 13 years, 5 kids and I work part time) but I do it anyway and I usually enjoy it lol.

I used to tell hubby no. A LOT. And then one day he just stopped asking. After a few weeks I noticed and said something about it. He told me there was no point asking when he knew what the answer was going to be. You can only be told no so many times before it starts to break you down a bit. That was really an eye opener for me. I have tried harder since then.

Quoting supernoodle2:

The more times you have sex the more you start to want it again. You just have to "start" back up again and try to see if your sex drive will come back.

[angiekevin03]

im with ya there mama . i lost my sex drive after i had kids . im just to tired and busy its actually like a chore anymore rite up there with dishes and laundry . now that we have kids and we are 15 yrs into our relationship i need more romance . i also had my dr give me a prescription to help boost things all it is testosterone cream  it works but seemed to take long time i dont take it anymore cause i got preg and since had baby who bf . there is also things you can get at holistic type pharmacies .

[sheilao409]

sometimes im not in the mood either but your groove will come back try to get some alone time with back massages and warm baths . that may help

[sPiCyNiNjAkItTy]

Porn and vibrators brought my sex drive back.

[Anonymous]

My sex drive has taken a dive lately too. I know its pregnancy related though. I've just tried to be the one who initiates and then he can take over. I'm physically limited and don't always enjoy it but there's times I do and I get the satisfaction of knowing he's happy.

[inlovewithcraig]

well u need to have a good relationship before u want to fix ur sex life...fix the relationship first

[Saille717]

I'd say the first step is to talk to your doctor.  It sounds like you've got some mild depression issues and need some help handling stress.  

[HuggingFitMum]

I don't think anything's wrong with you. May be your pill, but most likely you're just stressed out and too tired to think of anything else but sleep.

Hope you can make time for some lovin' with your man, despite your crazy schedules..