I had to walk away... I almost lost it. *UPDATE with punishment decision*
As soon as I saw why my 11 yo was screaming, I was immediately pissed to my core. My 13 yo son SHOT his brother square between the eyes with an air soft gun! From less than 3 feet away!! Yes, I got in his face. And yes, I was yelling. He could have shot him in the fucking EYE or something!! He KNOWS how dangerous even toy guns can be! My kids are not allowed to have ANY gun and they know it. Apparently one of his buddies brought it and left it here by accident. I had no idea it was even in my house! Well, needless to say, his buddy no longer has an air soft gun. If he wanted the thing, he should have taken it home with him when he went. And guess who gets to tell his friend what happened to it? HE DOES!!
I don't know, and frankly don't care, what he was thinking when he shot his brother. His ass got brought back down to a 13 yo BOY tonight. My DH had to pull me back from him. I walked out of his room and outside, because I just flat out lost it. He had NO business with that gun and he CERTAINLY had no business aiming it (much less shooting it!) at his brother.
This was over 2 hours ago, and I'm still shaking, thinking about what COULD have happened. Thank God my 11 yo only has a small mark in between his eyebrows! His punishment was to apologize to his brother and hug him. He has to write an essay this week on gun safety. He has to explain what happened and apologize to his friend. (And if he or his parents want it to be replaced, then HE gets to work and make money to do so.) I know he's grounded, I just don't know how long yet. Summer football training starts next Monday, and I'm not even sure if I'm going to allow him to play this year. I think I need to sleep on it and decide tomorrow. He's not going anywhere anyhow, and I think I'm just still too mad.
I don't want to OVER punish him, but I want him to know that this kind of behavior will absolutely NOT be tolerated under any circumstances.
Ok, so the boy isn't up yet (but will be soon as he's got lots to do today) and we haven't had our talk BUT I have decided that he will still be allowed to play footbal this season. BUT there are a few other things he has to do as part of his punishment. He gets to go to a friends place and help clear some land. I figure carrying logs back and forth over the span of a few acres will help with strength and endurance and will also be beneficial for football. He will be going to the local PD to visit with a few people and get an idea about just how dangerous guns are and possibly voulenteer some time at a hospital nearby. Along with everything else I've already listed, this should keep him quite busy for a while. And if he happens to be done with it all before I've decided that his grounding is over, I'm sure I can figure some other things out. He will DEFINATELY learn a lesson from all of this!!
And thank you ALL for the wonderful advice!!