Simple as that. Taking care of your kids is not a job! You made them, you are the only way they can survive! They are not a burden! You shouldn't feel like you deserve some kind of reward because you care for them! You don't deserve any special attention because you are a stay at home mom either. It's not working hard, its called being a mother! Cleaning the house and keeping up on everything that you should isn't a job either. It's what you do when you become a mother and a wife!! So stop acting like its so god damn hard to raise a child, if you don't want to do it stop having kids!!!
Just for the record, this is coming from a stay at home mom, WHO DOESN'T think its a JOB to care for my family!! Or act like someone or my SO need to owe something to me!