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I don't miss the baby I gave up for adoption.

Posted by Anonymous   + Show Post

I was talking to a friend about this today and told her that I do not miss the little boy I gave up for adoption. I signed the papers once he was born and left the hospital without him. I never let myself get attached and while I did love him(if I didn't, I damn sure would not have carried him for 10 months) I don't miss him. There is nothing to miss. I don't want him with me. I gave him up for a reason and I wouldn't change a thing. 

My friend got all upset saying that I sound heartless and so on and so forth but she just doesn't understand. 

Posted by Anonymous on Jul. 31, 2012 at 2:29 AM
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stephy87
by Ruby Member on Jul. 31, 2012 at 2:36 AM
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Consider counseling. Maybe some therapy might help.....
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MichelleSw
by CoolStory on Jul. 31, 2012 at 2:36 AM
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Not all people are easily emotionally attached; some think more logically. You knew what you were doing and went through with it. You chose a great life for baby and went on with yours. Nothing wrong with that.

Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jul. 31, 2012 at 2:36 AM
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Quoting Anonymous:

I guess I don't understand either then, I'm with your friend. How could you not miss your child???

He's not my child anymore. Yes I got pregnant with him and gave birth to him but he has a mother and father, he is their child. 

mstkn.identity
by on Jul. 31, 2012 at 2:37 AM
Hey how ya been? Been thinkin bout ya and havent seen ya around.

Quoting AquarianPath:

 whatever works for you.

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momma0ffive
by on Jul. 31, 2012 at 2:37 AM
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If you don't miss him....do u think about him? Wonder what king of life he is having? Ever want to meet him? At the very least give him you Knowlike family health history, things like that
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Anonymous
by Anonymous 1 - Original Poster on Jul. 31, 2012 at 2:37 AM
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Quoting halliebug:

You weren't emotionally invested, you went into the pregnancy knowing you were placing him then?

Pretty much. I Knew there was no way I could keep and raise a baby at that point in time from the moment I found out I was pregnant.

MamaFLgurl
by Gold Member on Jul. 31, 2012 at 2:37 AM
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I see nothing wrong with how you feel. You did what was right for you.
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sucker4myloves
by on Jul. 31, 2012 at 2:38 AM
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I guess I can kind of get it. I mean, I can't fathom it because I've never gone through it, but I can see how you would feel that way. If you didn't love him ever, you would have aborted him. You wanted something more for him from day one and knew it, I suppose?

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AquarianPath
by on Jul. 31, 2012 at 2:38 AM
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 I don't see anything wrong with her...why does she need therapy?

Quoting stephy87:

Consider counseling. Maybe some therapy might help.....

 

Hannah-Belle
by on Jul. 31, 2012 at 2:39 AM
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I don't hate you for it. And truthfully, I feel like anyone who bashes for this is just out for blood tonight.

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