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Anonymous
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 i need to rrant like no other.

my mil is a total nutcase. i cant stand her. she is drunk all the time. asks for money all the time for beer. we dont have a lot of money and what we do we should be spending on our kid and not beer for your alcoholic mother.

we could be doing something important and she calls just to go get beer me and my child becomes not important. this is his kid and yet he acts like his mom is more important.

i told him today finally that i cant stand his mom and i dont want to have to deal with her being disrepectful to me for the rest of my life.

i try and avoid seeing her as much as possible. she will make snide remarks to me, say beyond disrepectful things to me, and will tell me on how i am doing such a poor job raising my child and how i should do better. i am a stay at home mom and when my fiance gets home i take care of him. i do all the laundry, most of the cooking, and all the cleaning plus taking care of my child 24/7 and yet and im still shit in her eyes.

i want a relationship with the guy i am in love with and not his mom. she doesnt need to be in the picture on how i raise my child. i am a great mom. she wanted to wake my 3 month old daughter up who had finally fallen asleep 5 minutes earlier just so she can see the beach. what 3 month old is going to give a rats ass about the beach. i dont want to deal with a cranky baby, plus also there is no need to wake her. when i said no she gave me a dirty ass look and said "oh well she needs to". if i remember i carried her for 9 months and been taking care of her for 3 months with no help from you and not a whole lot from your son. (i didnt say any of that but i was close too...well that and close to punching her because she has been doing everything to get me and my fiance to break up since we got togther and also when we were pregnant and also recently). i just want her out of my life.

she is a drunk, and a bad drugee and i dont need soemone like that around my daughter, especially when you are bad mouthing me infront of my daughter.

well i told him i cant stand her and i dont want to deal with her like that for the rest of my life, how i love him and want to be with him forever.  would think he would tell her to shut up or start being nice or acting nice to me....nope. told me if i cant deal with her he cant deal with me.

he left crying saying for me to get a hold of him when i have made up my mind of what i want. i know what i want and you dont want to tell your mom that your daughter comes first. tell her to not be drunk around our daughter. anything.

well his mom posted this Some say holding on is what makes you strong... But sometimes it takes much more strength to just let go.. And move on!

and this Another blow from another family member....I see the "jumper" jean is somehow genetic.....

he said the only one who won was me since now im a single mom but it sounds like his mom is happy about it.

i was even wanting to go to counseling for me and my fiance since we do have problems but his mom is wearing me down and making me feel even shittier about myself and our relationship. but instead of going his mom calls and says she would be 10 minutes to get something on the computer (copy and paste and then print something) at the library but instead it took 2 hours. she didnt want him to leave so we couldnt of dropped her off and go to counseling (they are all within like 5 miles so there wouldnt of been a lot of driving). i just dont get why my fiance still has to be on his mother apron strings. he was old enough to have a kid so he should make sure everything for our daughter comes first. she is the first thing in my life. i dont go places ever, never see my friends and i gave it up to raise my child and yet he cant be grown up enough to tell his mom i cant do it right now or even i will drop you off and pick you up when you call because i have things i need to do for my family.

he doesnt even refer to us as his family. i asked him who is his family and he said his mom and siblings.

 

sorry for the longness. i just needed to get it all off my chest. it helped but i am still in pain and hurting from this

Posted by Anonymous on Jul. 31, 2012 at 11:03 PM
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Eli_Mama_11
by on Jul. 31, 2012 at 11:09 PM
I'm sorry I know all bout ppl needing to man up n take care of his........ N it's sad to say most never do.... All I can tell you if he doesn't tell his mom to back off or that u n ur daughter come first then he never will n u should do what's best for u. N btw I'm sure ur a great mommy :)

Hugs mama
Anonymous
by Anonymous on Jul. 31, 2012 at 11:14 PM
Sweetie, buy "Boundaries" by Cloud and Townsend and start LIVING the life you want!

This crap is unhealthy!

Here's a hug. Seriously, read the book
Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Jul. 31, 2012 at 11:16 PM

 

Quoting Eli_Mama_11:

I'm sorry I know all bout ppl needing to man up n take care of his........ N it's sad to say most never do.... All I can tell you if he doesn't tell his mom to back off or that u n ur daughter come first then he never will n u should do what's best for u. N btw I'm sure ur a great mommy :)

Hugs mama

 thanks. happened all of a sudden. i was cleaning and then he was saying how his mom made him stay for the two hours and i was like you are an adult. and then it came to me not likinh his mom at all. i just cant believe thats a reason to breakup. my mom is super nice to him saying how great he is at being a dad and she lives in another state but his mom sees me taking great care of my daughter but says im not doing it right. i dont get people.

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Jul. 31, 2012 at 11:17 PM

 

Quoting Anonymous:

Sweetie, buy "Boundaries" by Cloud and Townsend and start LIVING the life you want!

This crap is unhealthy!

Here's a hug. Seriously, read the book

 i will get that book. i want a life that is not hectic and one that will actually let my daughter grow up in a healthy place (with a dad being around everyday or not).

Eli_Mama_11
by on Jul. 31, 2012 at 11:18 PM
Quoting Anonymous:




It's sad to say some men r still mamas boys n no woman will ever be good enough for their little boy, sigh some men need to grow a pair
mommy_me
by ~The Three B's~ on Jul. 31, 2012 at 11:20 PM

 BUMP

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Jul. 31, 2012 at 11:26 PM

That is a mess.  I would not tolerate that for a moment from my husband.  My mother-in-law's words and actions are completely indefensible 99% of the time.  I made it perfectly clear to my husband that he will support me (and everyone else in the family who she bitches at and screws over) or head right on back to her house (1500 miles away- thank goodness!).  I will not tolerate a man who doesn't know how to make his own family instead of holding his mommy's hand forever.

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Jul. 31, 2012 at 11:27 PM

 

Quoting Eli_Mama_11:

Quoting Anonymous:




It's sad to say some men r still mamas boys n no woman will ever be good enough for their little boy, sigh some men need to grow a pair

 yeah. he is so strong with everyone else but when it comes to her. she just has to say his name and he is running to her with his tail wagging like a dog

Anonymous
by Anonymous - Original Poster on Jul. 31, 2012 at 11:30 PM

 

Quoting Anonymous:

That is a mess.  I would not tolerate that for a moment from my husband.  My mother-in-law's words and actions are completely indefensible 99% of the time.  I made it perfectly clear to my husband that he will support me (and everyone else in the family who she bitches at and screws over) or head right on back to her house (1500 miles away- thank goodness!).  I will not tolerate a man who doesn't know how to make his own family instead of holding his mommy's hand forever.

 he wants to have us all move in together. i said no quickly and he got all defensive. i dont want your mom around telling me how to run my own house. plus she will spend all of her money within 3 days of getting it on beer and drugs. i dont even want to be in the same city as her.

Anonymous
by Anonymous on Jul. 31, 2012 at 11:32 PM

what are you talking about?! of COURSE a 5 month old NEEDS to see the beach! what kinda mother ARE you?!

lol jk jk

i agree with you. if BF cant stand up against his mom, when it comes to THIS family, then something would need to change. i dont even have a kid with him, and he stands up for me and my son when it needs to be.. which thankfully, she's not the type to be like that (i actually adore the crap outta her! hehe)

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