He spanked our 9 month old. EDIT#2...........

[Anonymous]

 My DH spanked our 9 month old. I am so upset I can't stop crying. I feel so bad for DD shes only 9 months and way wayyyyyy to young to be spanked. He slepped her becuase she would not stop going after the plug. I am packing mine and DD stuff and we will be gone before he gets home from work. I will not stand there and watch him abuse or daughter. okay vent over

 EDIT........... I can't believe you ladies think i'm overractiong. it's not okay to hit a 9 month old not matter what she was doing. she is still a baby

OMG I can't believe so many of you think it's okay to hit a baby so young. I do not hit her ever. if she does something wrong I tell her "NO NO NO" in a firm voise and put her in her play pen and leave her there even if shes crying. I would NEVER hit a baby that young.

I didnt do it myself becuase I was in the kitchin doing dishes I did see what was going on but I figured DH had it under control I didnt think he would hit her.

Yes we did talk about it before we had her and we both said we would NOT hit our children.

I am a good mother and wife so all you saying i'm not can kiss my ass. I put DD and my DH first ALWAYS.

DD JUST started crawling about a week ago and that was only the second time she ever tried to go afetr the plug.

DH told DD swice "NO" and she didnt listen so he walked over and smacked her on the butt ( with diaper) yes in my opinion it was TO HARD for a baby her age.

My DH has always had a anger problem. Even as a child and thats the reason I am leaving. I have seen him punch holes in walls when he blacks out and loses control. he has been really good when it comes to his anger sence we had DD but lately hes been getting mad really easy just like before. I'm not going to wait around and see what happens next when it come to our child.

 

 

[Poohy1975]

 The only time a child should be spanked is when they're doing something that could hurt themselves or others,IMO. But it should only be something to get their attention at 9 mths. Not something that could hurt them. I can't say you are over reacting because i didn't see him hit her. If it was just enough to get her attention then yes.But if it was enough to actually make it through the diaper and hurt her then no. Or if he did it in anger. No child should ever be hit out of anger no matter what. JMO.

[redlotusgirl]

Honey, whether you're overreacting or not, if he has an anger issue, and you don't feel safe having him around your baby, then you do what you think is best. Hugs to you. Xoxoxo

[.betty.white.]

Only you know whats best for you and dd.  I  commend you for doing what you have to do to protect her.  Don't listen to everyone on here only you know your specific situation. 

[Grumpylilpixy]

You should have left already if you were leaving.

[tpeake]

Good for you for not waiting to be around for the next anger moment, he thinks your opinion doesnt matter. Does he drink and then get angry? alcoholics are not fun to grow up with, you are doing the right thing he needs anger management from what you said about his temper tantrums. best of luck

[gum.drop]

i honest to god think you may have PPD or even postpartum psychosis..... this does not warrant a divorce unless you are not telling the whole story or are just looking for a reason to leave...

sounds like your DH just has different parenting skills, we all say i wont do this or i will do this, you never know till your in the moment.

again i hope this is not the only reason you are leaving, try counseling talking to DH or whatever.... but you cnt be IN CONTROL of the parenting there are two people who need to work together.

IM BEING TRULY HONEST i think you may need help.

[terall]

I have a very active 2 year old son....  every one that was spanked as a child and uses spanking on their own children says they are not violent... it doesnt neccissarily mean you will be violent it just means you learn to submiss to it some do it themselves some don't