question to the infertile

[Anonymous]

I only know one person who is infertile not by choice. She believes that those who are fertile owe her a baby.

Is she alone or is that common way of thinking"

[wkukid]

I've struggled for every hope I've had having children but I don't feel like anyone owes me a child. That's crazy.

[megannelove]

No one owes me anything let alone a baby

[Aislin]

Some do feel that way. IDK if its fair to say most but some. I have had run ins with several. Its rooted in pain that they haven't dealt with imo.

[CjEmmemommy]

I don't think she is alone. I have a friend that isn't infertle but had a hard time conceiving. She was trying in Dec. She told me every month she wasn't pregnant, I consoled her and encouraged her each month..
We decided to try in Apr and found out late Apr. I was hoping she would be pregnant too and was gentle in telling her.
She is exact words said she was mad and felt I got pregnant just to beat her to it.... I was shocked. Two days later she told me she was also pregnant and found out the day before I told her, considering she knew she was pregnant I have a feeling she was just jealous I didn't take as long....
Seems crazy but turns out she would then treat me the same way about my birth plans.

[937mrsweaver]

NO! THATS CRAZY NO ONE OWES ANYONE ANYHTING IN THIS LIFE.. TOOK ME AND DH ALONG TIME TO CONCIEVE HE IS OUR LIL MIRACLE.. I NEVER THOUGHT SOMEONE OWED ME A BABY.. GOD DECIDES IF U HAVE CHILDREN NO ONE ELSE

[702girly]

I have a friend dealing with infertility issues and she's not dealing with it well. She's said some really awful things. She's become super critical of other people's parenting to the point that no one deserves children because no one can live up to the perfection of motherhood that she would be if she could only have a child.

She also called adopted children garbage babies and she and her husband are much too good for a garbage baby.

I feel bad for her but it's at the point where I don't like her anymore. I know what she's saying is coming from a place of hurt but I can't help but think she's always kind of felt this way, she just never said it before. 

[TurtleSquish]

Quoting LadyBugMom09:

I specifially said no one owes her a baby. Adoption through the state is awesome if you have the ability to care for a special needs child. Most of the kids in the system are special needs in one way shape or form.

Regardless, I'm sick of people saying "just adopt!" Its not that easy and not everyone can do it.

[mommy_me]

 I cant have children because I lost my uterus to cancer when I was 22. I dont think anyone owes me anything. I would love a baby in the future and if a women with a wonderful heart wants to loan me her womb, I would always be grateful

[mommy74146]

No, it's just frustrating when you see women who can get pregnant at the drop of a hat and you can't even do it in a year. :-/  that's all for me.  Cause I think.. why can't I have another baby?  What is it that they have that I dont and how can I go about getting it so I can get knocked up again.  haha.  just sayin.

[mich.el.le]

 What? I owe someone a baby because they can't have one? How does that work?