In my head I understand that nothing I don't agree to will happen in mediation on Tuesday but it's still stressing me out so bad. My ex hasn't had anything to do with DD in 2 years hes an ex felon 2x over and uses drugs lies and couldn't even keep a fish alive if you paid him. I filed for sole legal and physical custody and to move from Illinois to Maine (to be with my family and a great job!) well when i filed he decided he needed to see DD. of course now that i want to get my life to a better place he wants to keep me in this shit hole where I'm living pay check to pay check ;'( I was so excited to make my life better and now he has control over anything i can do. I cant deal any more i just keep crying.
Breathe, mama. Everything will work out the way it's supposed to.
I know some one has it worse. but i wantr to make it better
Quoting MaMaBeArOnEoOne:
Everything happens for a reason ..trust me, someone has it worse. Pray. You'll be okay :)
Maybe you can give me some in site? I don't understand how the court decided on things like this, every one tells me they decide in the best interest of the child. But how is it the best interest of the child to be around some one like that?
Quoting mandifox82:
I am going thru something similar, only my ss is 8 years old his mother hasn't seen him or even called him in over 4 years and now out of the blue filed papers to get her custody rights back..... It is so nerve wracking because for 2 1/2 years I have been this boys mom and now this and his bio mom isn't the best left him in a hotel, was hooked on drugs and goes to a methadone clinic now, was a prostitute an was arrested for it..... It's horrible
okay, take a little breather.
you will be fine. it takes 1 year to be considered abandonment. so he is well over that. It would be on him to prove that:
1. he didnt abandon her,
2. that he can provide for her
and 3. that he has seen her repeatedly since she was born.
that is all his burden. and as long as you prove you have paid for everthing, without any of his help and that you would be better off moving, then you should be fine.
courts dont typically like to terminate parental rights but if you show he abandoned her and that he has done a thing til papers were filed, you have a really good case.
not i would just check into your states laws about parental rights and abandonment. also lawyers give free consultations, so id call up a respected attorney and get their opinion. ts what i did.
i moved across states while pregnant and feared they would make me move back to where my dd was conceived but since she was born here, my butt was covered by the state laws.
document document document!!! make sure you have all of his criminal records and let the judge know how often he has seen you kid. let it all out and let the judge know you have done everything to get him involve and he hasnt wanted it until you decide to make things better for you and your kid. the judge will most likely grant you the sole custody with you moving for a job. if you can provide proof that he is an unfit parent you will be better off.
Oh ive written everything down, ive got all the facts on why this place is better than where we are and anything else i could think to get. im also very scared of what kind of visits a judge will make my 4 year old do with a man she has seen 5 hours in 2 years. i have several long distance options to offer but who knows if they will like any of them.
Quoting super_mom_5:document document document!!! make sure you have all of his criminal records and let the judge know how often he has seen you kid. let it all out and let the judge know you have done everything to get him involve and he hasnt wanted it until you decide to make things better for you and your kid. the judge will most likely grant you the sole custody with you moving for a job. if you can provide proof that he is an unfit parent you will be better off.
are you ok with another woman calling your husband "hun" or "babe"
- Peytonsmom6308
on Aug. 3, 2012 at 11:11 AM