My 4yr old daughter wants everything (typical) but I cant ever afford to give her anything special :(
every barbie on TV, every sparkly dress or shoes, anything sweet...right now im living on technically no income. well below the poverty line...i have 2 kids, they arnt starving, they are clean and clothed, they get cartoon DVD's from library (cant afford cable right now), they are happy for the most part, they DO have toys but they havnt gotten any new toys since there b-days...they only get candy or sweet when they go to grandmas, I had to watch my 4 yr old try to hide that she was crying because i couldnt afford to get her a 25 cent laffy taffy thing. I feel like a terrible mom...its not like they are spoiled and i have to tell them no. I dont want to say to her "i know you have been good, i know you want this 3 dollar babrbie and that its cheap, but mommy and daddy are broke and dont know how we are going to even get diapers for baby brother, so no hunny you cant have it"...how do i tell my 4yr we are broke without telling her we are broke?
Kids don't need special toys, or new things to be made to feel special.
You shouldn't feel like a terrible mom, all you are required to give your kids is a shelter over their head, food in their belly, clothes on their back and most importantly love. Kids these days are too damn bratty and spoiled and expect far too much.
How do you afford internet? Just wondering.
Tell her it isnt time to get new toys right now. Its time to love the babies we have. Dont feel bad. You are giving them love and making sure they have their needs met. The rest can come later
It will get better and your kids will be fine
I have been there
Maybe watch the free section of Craigslist and see if you can score some fun new toys for her. Then wrap them up so they are even more exciting. My Mom was really broke when I was younger and she would get free puzzles from garage sales and wrap the pieces. My sister and I loved unwrapping 100 "gifts" and then we would all do the puzzle together. Trust me, you can create awesome memories with no money. Those are the only memories I have and they are the best ones! You can also get the toys that they dont play with together and see if any of your Mom friends want to get together and do a toy swap day. Put all the unwanted toys in a pile and bring new ones home to all the kids.
was in mwalm art with my almost 4 year old today, she wanted 6 different dolls, i told her no i cant afford it period, shes old enought to understand
ur kids shouldnt be eating candy anyway`
there are lots of free things u can do with ur kids u just have to look into it
I'm honest with my kids. If they want something and I can't afford it I say "we can't afford that right now" and "you already have plenty of toys". They understand that money is earned from working and goes to bill first. If there is leftover we try to do something fun, but its a treat not an obligation.
tell her maybe for christmas or her bday my parents did that i always forgot what that big thing i wanted was by then. also if you search on craigslist in the free part people give away some nice stuff just talk up the second hand that's how we got the playhouse and slide our kids love to play with goodwill also has great stuff some barely used ds got his bday gift of a toy train set from there she talk to her wouldn't say your broke she doesn't need to know the money problems at this age. just say maybe later next time or for her bday if she really wants it just save your change here or there and get it for her for her bday (or any other gift giving event) she'll get it. my kids did lol good luck.
are you ok with another woman calling your husband "hun" or "babe"
- boyandgirlmom
on Aug. 3, 2012 at 7:30 PM