Does anyone here not talk to their siblings?
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I have an older sister who is extremely self-centered and has never really been there for me during my darkest days. It's come to a point where we don't speak. I don't even know if I want her in my life anymore. Has anyone else gone through this?
My only sister died about 3 years ago. Our relationship wasn't very good but mostly because she had such severe social anxiety that she wouldn't talk to anyone. I was the only person she would talk to besides our mom and not even us that much. One of my brothers I never talk to. Not cuz our relationship is bad, we just aren't close and dont' have reason to talk really. Another brother we talk sometimes but again aren't close. And lastly, my third brother we aren't close but we have gotten closer recently since we both live in San Diego away from all friends and family (though I'm sure he's made new friends, I haven't.) He comes and hangs out and we've helped each other out a few times.
Now my husband's family has been so back and forth since we have been together. He has three brothers who were all really close. Then one brother started dating a girl who we learned too late was a thieving lying narcissistic drug addict that basically succeeded in destroying all the brothers' relationships. The drugs and lies came out way after the damage. She was really good at intermingling lies with truths. His oldest brother, sil and his mother didn't come to our wedding cause of a fight the psycho started (she still had us fooled at the time and was actually in our wedding.)
So every time we had an event....wedding, birth of our kids....she would call and make up something claiming an in law was talking crap about us and cause a new fight. She would play the other side too.
After my bil decided to leave her, a lot came out but it had been 9 years at that point and so much damage had been done it was difficult to repair. Just a clue to how crazy? She lied about having cancer (it was figured out when my bil ran into her "doctor" and when asked how she was doing, the dr had no clue who she was. My bil is a paramedic so she claimed to go for treatment when he was on his 12 hour shifts. We live in another state and by phone told me that she was raped while in rehab, got pregnant and gave the baby up for adoption. We hadn't seen them in so long no way to verify a hidden pregnancy. She even made the fake baby a fb page. The level of lying is quite sickening and because we were a state away she was so good at knowing that we couldn't verify her stories. But there were so many loopholes that we were catching on that last year.> We even promised her teenage daughter that she would always be our niece (she was bil's stepdaughter, no blood relationship to any if us). Well after 3 years of being a surrogate mom to her, she was just as much a taker as her mom and just caused a huge fight with me over fb. She is 19 and DXed bipolar. I work with special needs kids and have two of my own with needs so it's not like i didn't understand the extra she needed. It just wasn't enough.
My husband still will call his brothers on their birthdays and father's day as they will him (at least they did his last birthday....we will see what next year brings). But beyond that there is no real relationship.
Until the time she wanted to take our 4 year old for the weekend. She had been making a HUGE deal for months about how crippling her anxiety has been...how some days she would wake up and couldn't even get to the mailbox...dramatics (and knowing her the way I do...it was dramatics).
My husband and I talked about it and we decided that if things were as bad as she said they were, we didn't feel comfortable sending an active 4 year old to her house for the weekend.
She blew the hell up. And all of a sudden it was all MY fault. It all segued into my parenting, etc. Then it evolved into us being selfish people who acted holier than thou. It was spectacular.
We haven't spoken to her in 2.5 years. It's been so peaceful and serene.
I have 1 brother I don't talk to. Not by choice though, but by his. Long story short he was trying to tell me how to be an adult and treating me like a child and didn't like when I put him in his place.
Quoting Anonymous:
No but my husband is on the verge of cutting one of his sisters out. She is extremely rude to me and talks shit about me for no reason.
He's tired of it and told her he wont have a sister around who treats his wife that way.
I talk to my sister and we get along pretty well but I don't really talk to my brothers. We live pretty far away from them and they don't like to talk on the phone. I see the younger one once or twice a year when I go to visit my mom since he and his family live with her. He lives with her so they don't have to pay rent and she can pay all their other bills for them. The big lazy bum! I see the older one about once every 3 years. He lives next door to my mom and other brother but he is usually to busy being drunk to associate with the rest of us.
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