I hate to air my dirty laundry but here goes. My child is a liar. Apparently, a compulsive liar. He lies about everything. Even the most mundane things. He's 10 years old. He's a sweet boy. He's not defiant and I don't have much trouble with him overall.
But if I ask him if he fed the cat...he lies. Did you do your chores? Lie. Brush your teeth? Lie. Put your shoes away? Lie.
Sometimes, he volunteers the lie before I even ask anything. That's the part that concerns me. Why deliberately lie?
My mother in law thinks that I am putting him in a position to lie by asking him questions. So I stopped asking about chores. If I noticed he didn't do them, I just made a statement, like-- since you didn't put our clothes away, you cannot get on the computer tonight. Instead of asking if he put his clothes away. Even if I was holding the clothes in front of him, he'd lie & say he put them away.
I am at my wits end. I have no idea how to change this. What if he becomes a huge liar all through adulthood and ruins his life?
He doesn't respond to any kind of punishment, he just seems to accept it & waits until it's over and then he continues to lie.
And there is no terrible punishment going on, no spanking, no emotional abuse. We've had a couple of family situations that have upset him but that shouldn't be the cause of his day-to-day, chronic, continual lying.