Autism can't be this bad!!!! HES UNCONTROLABLE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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My son, he is 2 years old, he is a nightmare!
professionals suspect autism
I suspected autism
but now
I DONT KNOW HONESTLY
HE IS UNCONTROLABLE!!!!!!!!
Hes responisve (somewhat)
he has alot of the signs of autism
but hes crazy! (literally not being mean about how i say it just stating facts)
what use to be stimming (for those who don't know repetitive behaviors such as spinning, hand/arm flapping ect ect ect) are now full body spasms
he constantly yells!
beyond defiant
no punishment works
constant moving wont sit down
screams constantly
hits himself
runs from us if we come towards him
nothing works AT ALL
he has such abnormal responses to everything
no matter how mad we are he just laughs and laughs and screams and crys and laughs and yells and runs and stims and hits himself
we can call him to us for a hug or kiss and he will run and scream and repeat all of the above
the past 2 days have been the worst
a house full of 20 kids under the age of 3 would not be as hectic and as hard to control as this one little boy is.
he is the cutest little boy, and when hes sleeping hes perfect, he melts my heart
but when he is awake its pure utter chaos.
ive done tons of reasearch on autism
im a member of autism groups
but seriously, in all honesty.
Autism cannot be this bad!
( and no as of this moment we have no anwsers and we are in the process of getting anwsers but he is much better for strangers so they dont see what we see, and YES I VIDEO EVERYTHING)
its so hard to get people to understand or believe me and my fiance because i swear no one thinks this handsome little boy can be so bad!
Quoting mommasbabies77:
Autism can be that bad. Is he in Occupational therapy for sensory issues? Sounds like he has a lot of them. I'm sorry..hugs
we are working on getting him into several therapys no success yet though because he doesnt have a dx and our program we run through in our area has very little to offer
A good structured program like early intervention then a special needs preschool can make all the difference.
Can you start getting speech, OT or ABA yet? Once he is in those, you should see improvement too.
On top of taping, start to keep a journal of what happens before a behavior. Like if he flops to the ground, what happened right before that? Did you ask him to do something? Did you ask him to choose something where he would need to use language? as his environment about yo change, i.e. tell him that tv or play is over and it was time for a bath, bed or going somewhere? Behaviorists look for the antecedent because that is how we determine the way we address the behavior.
You can't fix this overnight so try to sleep and not let your mind race with how overwhelming it all can be. Autism can become all consuming at the beginning. Try not to let it...you're still a wife, mother, a lover and a woman! Just know that you're not alone and to breathe! One day at a time....it's all you can do....
It can ad often is that bad! my autistic son is 24 now, and we went through years of Hell before the sef abuse and screaming stopped.. He can't talk, and that made matters worse. There are good schools that can work with your son, as well as in home help. Contact your local Mental Health Agency, they will steer you in the right direction. It takes time and patience, and I am sure you will have some very rough times, but beieve me, it is worth it. You can contact me if you need someone to talk to. I am not only the parent of an autistic son, I used to work in education with autistic chidren. You are in my prayers.
Quoting Anonymous:
Once you start getting help it will get easier...i promise. A good structured program like early intervention then a special needs preschool can make all the difference. Can you start getting speech, OT or ABA yet? Once he is in those, you should see improvement too. On top of taping, start to keep a journal of what happens before a behavior. Like if he flops to the ground, what happened right before that? Did you ask him to do something? Did you ask him to choose something where he would need to use language? as his environment about yo change, i.e. tell him that tv or play is over and it was time for a bath, bed or going somewhere? Behaviorists look for the antecedent because that is how we determine the way we address the behavior. You can't fix this overnight so try to sleep and not let your mind race with how overwhelming it all can be. Autism can become all consuming at the beginning. Try not to let it...you're still a wife, mother, a lover and a woman! Just know that you're not alone and to breathe! One day at a time....it's all you can do....
This. And I promise, once a diagnosis is made and treatment starts, it will get better.
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Quoting Anonymous:
My son, he is 2 years old, he is a nightmare!
professionals suspect autism
I suspected autism
but now
I DONT KNOW HONESTLY
HE IS UNCONTROLABLE!!!!!!!!
Hes responisve (somewhat)
he has alot of the signs of autism
but hes crazy! (literally not being mean about how i say it just stating facts)
what use to be stimming (for those who don't know repetitive behaviors such as spinning, hand/arm flapping ect ect ect) are now full body spasms
he constantly yells!
beyond defiant
no punishment works
constant moving wont sit down
screams constantly
hits himself
runs from us if we come towards him
nothing works AT ALL
he has such abnormal responses to everything
no matter how mad we are he just laughs and laughs and screams and crys and laughs and yells and runs and stims and hits himself
we can call him to us for a hug or kiss and he will run and scream and repeat all of the above
the past 2 days have been the worst
a house full of 20 kids under the age of 3 would not be as hectic and as hard to control as this one little boy is.
he is the cutest little boy, and when hes sleeping hes perfect, he melts my heart
but when he is awake its pure utter chaos.
ive done tons of reasearch on autism
im a member of autism groups
but seriously, in all honesty.
Autism cannot be this bad!
( and no as of this moment we have no anwsers and we are in the process of getting anwsers but he is much better for strangers so they dont see what we see, and YES I VIDEO EVERYTHING)
its so hard to get people to understand or believe me and my fiance because i swear no one thinks this handsome little boy can be so bad!
Oh sweetie, I feel for you 1000%. My little guy is 7, and there are days when I swear he's literally trying to kill me. There are also days when he's an absolute angel. If he's autistic (and it certainly sounds like it), you have to remember that he's doing this because his brain just works differently, and normal, everyday things probably confuse and scare the living daylights out of him. My son's doctor once told me that for an autistic child, every minute of every day is like trying to put a puzzle together without having the picture to refer to. They're trying to figure stuff out, their senses process things differently (very intensely in most cases), and he just doesn't know how to respond.
I resisted medicating my son for a long time, but when he was 5, his psych put him on Risperidone, and it really does work wonders. It seems to help them focus and kind of even things out for them....the tantrums aren't gone, but they've been reduced in both frequency and intensity. They also help him sleep more regularly, which is so important (an overtired autistic child is a ticking time bomb). These ladies are all correct, behavioral therapy, occupational therapy, people around you who can help not only work with him, but will offer you a respite when you need it...all things that will help in the long run. The best thing you can do when he acts up is try to calm him (holding them very tightly helps if they're physically freaking out), make him feel safe, and stay calm yourself. I know it's incredibly difficult, but again, remember, he's not doing it to be a brat, he really doesn't know what else to do. He's frustrated and confused (much like you are, I know), and he's lashing out. I'm sorry you're having such a hard time, try to hang in there, I hope you have a good support system...feel free to PM me anytime if you just want to vent or if you have questions or whatever, we mamas gotta stick together. I'm praying for y'all, and sending lots of love and hugs. :)
You need to "tantrum proof " room in your house.
Line the walls with padding,put in a half door,double carpet (some people even velcro the walls and get those suits that stick to the velcro) and when he wants to bounce off the walls ,let him.It has to be an empty room.
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