I have never spanked my children, ever. I really need to ask the mothers that have also never (not even once) spanked for help.
In the last week, DD (3yrs) has attempted a viscious spanking on DS (14mths). She knows what spanking is, that it hurts really bad, and that Mommy doesn't do it, none of which was told to her by me. When I say she tried to spank DS, I mean she grabbed his arm forcefully and tried to wail on his bottom. I say tried but she did hit him, only he is cloth diapered and is only three so she isn't strong enough to give a powerful spank.
My question, what I need help with, is would she be doing this if no one has ever spanked her? Does/Did anyone else's children do this? Please, I need to know if someone is hurting my daughter:'(
*UPDATE* I asked DD calmly if someone has spanked her.
She said, "Yes, and it really hurt. Real bad," and she spanked her own bum to show me a spank.
I asked if she cried, she says no.
"I'm so sorry that someone hurt you. Do you know who did it, who spanked you?"
"I don't know."
So, progress? I don't know if it's just something she is saying or if someone really did spank her and she doesn't want to get them in trouble... I'm going crazy over here!