She stole him from me, and I am glad.

[Anonymous]

Back in high school, I was so in love with a guy. We hung out all the time and flirted. All his friends told me that he really liked me, but we were both too shy to make the first move. I would talk to one of my best friends about it all the time. One day, I told her that I was finally going to make my move when he came over to hang out later that evening. She then tells me that they hooked up about a week prior and she felt too guilty to tell me. I was pissed, but decided that because we were never really together, I would forgive her and move on. A part of me never really got over it, though. We lost contact when she graduated early to move with him when he went to college, and only recently started talking to her again on Facebook. She is now married to another guy. Well, I told my bff that I was in contact again with her, and that I was over it all, but still wondered from time to time what would have happened if I made the first move. My bff still hangs out with her as well. She told me that I should be thankful that I never did make that first move, because he would hit her and was very emotionally abusive. I am shocked by that! He seemed like the sweetest guy ever! I am not glad at all that she had to go through that abuse, but I am thankful I didn't. The man she is married to now treats her wonderfully, and they are very happy. It really is crazy how you think you know someone, and they aren't at all the person you thought they were. 

[kissmiss213]

wow, really dodged a bullet with that one. but the abusive jerks usually dont show that up front, otherwise they wouldnt ever have anyone to abuse.

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

This is true. Too true. 

Quoting kissmiss213:

wow, really dodged a bullet with that one. but the abusive jerks usually dont show that up front, otherwise they wouldnt ever have anyone to abuse.

[Roxygurl]

I know the feeling, I had the same thing happen to me and for about a year I thought why? Why did he chose her? And then she told me about the abuse and I realized why. I didn't wish that on her and I still feel bad but now I know

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

That is exactly how I felt, too. 

Quoting Roxygurl:

I know the feeling, I had the same thing happen to me and for about a year I thought why? Why did he chose her? And then she told me about the abuse and I realized why. I didn't wish that on her and I still feel bad but now I know

[Mamie_85]

Poor girl. Glad she found a good man, in the end.

[mommy_me]

 I agree. You never really know someone until you have spent time together. More than weeks or months.

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

Me, too! I feel bad she went through that! 

Quoting Mamie_85:

Poor girl. Glad she found a good man, in the end.

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

So true. It even shocked my bff, because she knew him from the time they were little kids. But I guess if you aren't behind the closed doors, you can never really know. 

Quoting mommy_me:

 I agree. You never really know someone until you have spent time together. More than weeks or months.