This might sound morbid, but have you ever thought about....?
What song you want played at your funeral? I don't know why, but it's really important to me that no generic "Wind beneath my Wings" type song is playing before I am lowered into the ground.
I want "May this be Love" by Jimi Hendrix played at mine. That song just makes me feel peaceful and happy, and that's the way I want to be remembered.