i cant believe shes doing this to our mother *update*

[Anonymous]

Long story short. my sis was dating this abusive man and after he almost killed her she supposedly left him. she hasnt found a job and her bills came due and three of her kids needed everything for school. my mom agreed to buy everything as long as she didnt get back with that abuser. the next day she called crying that he left her stranded and took her keys. she was an hr away. me and dh were gonna go get her when she said he camr back.

again she promised mom she wouldnt contact him at all. none of the kids are his so no need to see him at all.

mom paid $700 in bills and school stuff. We were short on cash and asked to borrow $20 from mom and she said no cause shr had to pay my sisters rent to own tv.

she went to my moms yesterday with a hicky and claimed it was from before they split.

tonght i went to the convenient store and am friends with the cashier. he told me my sis was there all over some guy. i asked what he looked like. it was the abusive guy.

i dont know if i should tell mom or let her find out on her own. what would you do. my mom is gonna continue paying her bills til she gets on her feet as long as she keeps her word.

update***

i called my sister and told her i knew she was with him and she just denied it. she said she went to the convenience store for eggrolls by herself and left her kids in the car. at two am!!!!! i dont believe her for a second.

so i called mom. told her what my friend said. Described the guy my friend saw, down to the scar on the right side of his head from an accident he had afrw weeks ago. didnt say anything about cutting her off. just told her im scared hes gonna kill her or those kids. she said shed call me back. so we shall see.

[Lizard_Lina]

So you know what you tell her? Fine, none of us will worry about you then. Then convince mom to cut her off. You'd be amazed what a little change in circumstance will do to somebodies ego. She wants to be a big girl let her be a big girl. And if things take a shit and cps gets called in (which they totally should if her children are around an abusive man, who isn't even their father) then file for temporary guardianship until, or if, she gets her shit straight.

Quoting Anonymous:

My older sister threatened her. nothing changes her thinking. according to her we have no right to worry about any of them. we should mind our own business. all we want is whats best for her and those kids

Quoting mummy1990:

I would say something. I know shes in an abusive relationship and it can be hard to get away, but, she needs a wake up call, and her kids seem to not be that important to her...I'd maybe threaten to have her kids taken because of the violence in the home...its not good for them.

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

So then i should wait til he puts her in the hospital or kills her or maybe i should wait til he hurts one of the kids.

i just want her safe. i want her happy and those kids to be happy and not have to worry about anything

Quoting thehickinhickor:

if you keep pushing it if she ever is ready to really leave she may not come to you 

[thehickinhickor]

i am telling you this from a child that watched her mother do this to herself .i know what you want i wanted the same for my mother just telling you the truth i

Quoting Anonymous:

So then i should wait til he puts her in the hospital or kills her or maybe i should wait til he hurts one of the kids.



i just want her safe. i want her happy and those kids to be happy and not have to worry about anything

Quoting thehickinhickor:

if you keep pushing it if she ever is ready to really leave she may not come to you 

[RavenDravenF]

tell your mom she needs to know

[Anonymous]

Tell your mom what your sister is doing. She shouldn't be kept in the dark about this. Your sister may not want her families' support and for you all to MYOB but your mother needs to have you supporting her. I can't imagine being a Mom and being forced into the position to watch my daughter run repeatedly back to an abuser. Plus grandchildren are involved. It must be heartbreaking for her (as well as for you & other family members). Your sister is choosing to be with her abuser but your Mother shouldn't have to foot the bill. Your sister is using your mom.

[MumsTheWord571]

She's not doing this to your mother. She's doing it to herself. I would tell your mom though.

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

Shes doing it to her kids.

Quoting MumsTheWord571:

She's not doing this to your mother. She's doing it to herself. I would tell your mom though.

[Anonymous - Original Poster]

Shes doing it to her kids.

Quoting MumsTheWord571:

She's not doing this to your mother. She's doing it to herself. I would tell your mom though.

[MumsTheWord571]

I would definitely agree with that as well. My Mom was frequently in abusive relationships. Those type of men aren't very discriminate about whom they hurt. Even if he does not hit them, he's hurting them.

Quoting Anonymous:

Shes doing it to her kids.

Quoting MumsTheWord571:

She's not doing this to your mother. She's doing it to herself. I would tell your mom though.

[ana326]

Yep you can. If you reply via desktop or lap top a pop up window will show up asking if you'd like to join the group. I've had that happened a few times when I post in groups I'm not a member in.

Quoting Sassy762:

I know you can see what is posted in the groups BUT I didn't know you could reply also.....thanks

Quoting ana326:

It's a CM group. They are open groups even non cm members can see what is posted in here.

Quoting Sassy762:

How can you reply in this group IF  you aren't a member????

Quoting JeanCarrie:

I can not say anything seeing this er