I found my husband's profile on a dating website!!!! (small update in purple)

[Anonymous]

This is word for word what his profile says. I'm so humiliated, hurt, angry, every emotion has gone through me today. 

I'm going to be honest here I am married with kids. But I am looking for someone to hang out with and have some fun. I work very late hrs and get out around 2 am and but Im always down for some good sex which my wife is not always in the mood for. I need someone who can be discreet about all this. If you don't want to mess around then we can still be friends cause I dont mind having gorgeous friends either. I like to please a woman orally as well as fucking her however she likes. So if you are interested leave me a message!

He paid 29.95 a month to find a woman to sleep around with. Fucking sick.

I don't want to call our marriage quits just yet, I don't just give up on things but this will definitely change things. 

Update: I just wanted to answer a few questions. I found the site because I was ordering pizza, his email was the first to pop up so I just used it. When I went to confirm that the order went through, I saw a bunch of emails from the website so yes I clicked it. I know it's him because it has his full name, his picture, and our general area. I am going to assume he's been paying for it with his work card(he has his own business so he uses it for materials, etc) because I've never noticed it on any of our other bills. He is not home now, he is at his parent's house until Wed, helping them build a deck. Once he gets home, we are going to have a verrrry long talk about this. I'm not saying for sure that I will stay or go. It all depends on how he reacts to this situation and how our talk goes. 

Update 2: Well we talked, he said that he never did hook up with any of them but he wasn't going to lie, he said he planned on it at one time. I don't know if that's the truth or not but I don't care anymore, we are going to move past it. I have an appoitnment set up with a marriage counselor and we are going to try the love dare as seen in the movie fire proof. And as for all of you who were questioning if he was really at his mom's. Yes he was there, we've only had 1 car for the past week(car troubles with the other) so they came to pick him up and they took DD with them plus they live way out in the country.

I don't care that many of you think I'm dumb or naive but it's MY marriage and only I know what is best for me and our children.

One more thing, stop hounding me to update. I know some of you run to cafemom after your every move but I can't do that LOL!

The last update was a joke people. Jesus Christ. I appreciate all the kind words and support, I really do. I may not be doing what many suggested(divorcing him) but like  I said, I know what is best for my marriage. Oh and we will BOTH be getting tested! 

[candycanealane]

This happened to me where I to found out he had a dating profile.  I confronted him he said he was just having fun.  He said he would take it down.  3 months later I found not just another profile but 3 he had had for months and was still very active on.  Needless to say we were through, then I found out I was pregnant, I still didnt take him back.  I dont know if he ever met someone while we were together but I got myself checked immediately!!

[barriosest09]

I knw how you feel my husband did the same thing to me a lot of times. I stay because love him,and I want my kids to grow up with a dad unlike me.you'll never get over it the trust is gone and it hurts and I don't knee what to do anymore

[momof4under6]

sounds wrong but I would so reply to his add and meet him like you were someone else..JUST to see the look on his face!!!!!!! EWWWW I am sure you were sick to your stomach!!!

[josefine84]

I would defenently confront him about, to see what he has to say.. If I was you I would end the marriage I know it would be hard for your kids but y would you want to e with somebody that would do that, if he has the guts to do it on a computer what about in real person.. Honestly he does not have any respect for you.. Hope it's gets better and you do what's best for you and your kids..

[shar0nk]

The only thing I would be cleaning his pipes with is a falay knife or a stiletto! Having sex with him more is MAYBE a quick fix, but why couldn't he have discussed with you that there was an issue? no fornitude? I Don't have the problem of having to deal with a husband that want sex. I have the opposite problem. He does want to have sex. I'm the sex hound so to speak. Everyday is to much, once a week is to much. Once a month will do for him, so get a lot of shut up sex. Unfeeling no attention to affection sex.
My point is we all have our issue we need to support our fellow woman and not bicker and belittle anyone that reads the issue and has a valid comment.

Quoting Anonymous:

fuck him more often....like Joann says clean his pipes...

[Anonymous]

My husband is on every dating website out there. He lists his age as being 10 years younger. We are getting a divorce.

[Wendic04]

This is very sad that this has happened to you. But you can see where his mindset is. Confronting him may help you confront the situation but I guarantee he has done it before and will do it again. How do I know? I've been there. He will be more careful in the future, he may even blame you as it seems he is already by what he wrote. Dr Phil made a statement that hit me, " It's not the rats you you see, it's the ones you don't. If you have seen one, there are more" that was the eye opener for me.
I would save it and copy and paste it along with whatever else you find. You may need it to give to his family someday to defend yourself.

[3xangel]

 I find it quite ridiculous that so many "women" are trying to turn OP's husband's disgusting behavior around on her. smh. HE made the choice to look outside of their marriage *instead* of talking to his wife, so 100% of the blame goes to him.

Quoting shar0nk:

The only thing I would be cleaning his pipes with is a falay knife or a stiletto! Having sex with him more is MAYBE a quick fix, but why couldn't he have discussed with you that there was an issue? no fornitude? I Don't have the problem of having to deal with a husband that want sex. I have the opposite problem. He does want to have sex. I'm the sex hound so to speak. Everyday is to much, once a week is to much. Once a month will do for him, so get a lot of shut up sex. Unfeeling no attention to affection sex.
My point is we all have our issue we need to support our fellow woman and not bicker and belittle anyone that reads the issue and has a valid comment.

Quoting Anonymous:

fuck him more often....like Joann says clean his pipes...

 

[kenziesmomma228]

For him to do this shows he has zero respect for you and doesn't value your relationship. I think the talk needs to happen, obviously. But, i don't think any amount of talking could make me forgive something as serious as that. Good luck though and i hope it works out in the best way for you and your children.

[aubreyluv]

I'm sorry momma. I was on the Internet in my hubby's phone and whe I went to his history he had adult chat sites and other things on there. I was devastated. We are trying to work through it but now my trust is gone and it just sucks.. Feel free to message me we can maybe help each other out?